The Best Information Fails If. . . .
I don’t understand it! I have been a member of my local YMCA for several months now, but I don’t see a difference in my muscle tone or my waist! It makes no sense to me.
Oh, and a friend of mine went to the doctor, found out he had high blood pressure. The doctor gave him a prescription. He also recommended several changes in his lifestyle. But to no avail! His blood pressure is still elevated. He is frustrated (which doesn’t help the pressure!)
Did I mention that I haven’t actually gone to the gym yet? I probably forgot to mention that. My friend? He hasn’t gotten the prescription filled, and he was telling me about his blood pressure over lunch (he was having one of those big, juicy cheeseburgers and a side of onion rings) that we crammed in between several tough meetings that day. . . .
I recently read a statistic that really bothered me as a writer: 95% of self-help books are never read. Of the 5% that are read, I wonder how many people actually take the information and implement it.
You are probably trying to find some useful information to help you with your marriage. The best information will be of no help if it is not implemented.
I don’t know how many times people have called me and said “I read your book, and it didn’t help at all.” I ask, “what did you do? What did you change?” They usually stutter and stammer a few moments, then admit that they read the material, but they did nothing to actually change anything.
So, if you are ready to change your marriage, don’t just become an information addict! Read the material, then implement it! Those two steps probably put you ahead of 99% of the population!
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Comments
Comment from Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Time June 26, 2008 at 4:30 pm
And on that point, I have never debated! In fact, I state that this is not the kind of marriage I would support helping to save. You can see that at http://www.savethemarriage.com
My task is to save the marriages that should be saved (non-abusive), never to save ALL marriages. However, the vast majority of marriages are NOT abusive, and deserve a chance.
Comment from Anderson
Time July 17, 2008 at 1:57 pm
To save marriage sMake a list of what’s wrong. This may sound corny, or something out of a sappy movie. But believe it or not, it actually works. Sit down with your spouse and each of you make a list of what is wrong. Then discuss how to fix those problems. Don’t argue, come to consensus with each other. Have a serious conversation.
Comment from Anonymous
Time June 25, 2008 at 3:20 pm
In my marriage I was the victim of verbal and emotional abuse. Sometimes a marriage is not worth saving if it’s going to cost someone her safety and sanity. Some marriages are toxic and abusive need to be dissolved. There is no hope for the victim. An abuser never changes, only gets worse.