7 Stages of Disconnection — Where Are You?: #59http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/wp-content/themes/corpus/images/empty/thumbnail.jpg 150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/669b7e375d93f77521ddaba08adb8063?s=96&d=blank&r=pg
Connection is the nourishment of every marriage. If you break the connection, you starve the relationship.
So why are so many marriages connection-starved?
Most people don’t realize how important the connection is. So, life gets in the way: careers, friends, hobbies, interests, children. Over time, the distractions build up.
Until one day, you realize that either you do not feel the warmth toward your spouse or your spouse does not feel the warmth toward you.
By then, you may already be a couple of stages into the disconnection spiral. And you may have never seen it coming!
Just a couple of days ago, “Sue” told me she thought the relationship would take care of itself. She thought she and her husband built the connection during their dating days.
“Somehow,” she told me, “I thought the marriage would just roll along. We would be happy and all would be good. I forgot to reach out to him. He stopped reaching out to me. Now, there is a huge, cold divide between us in bed. I don’t even know how to move forward. I am beginning to think he doesn’t even like me anymore. And I have lost all respect.”
Take a look at the graphic to the right.
You will notice that Sue has identified 2 stages in the process of disconnection: dislike and disrespect.
Where is YOUR relationship?
In today’s podcast, I explore the very typical (but very tragic) pattern of disconnection — a process that takes many marriages right to the brink of divorce and separation.
If you know the stages, you can understand the process. And the process is reversible. The earlier you start, the easier the process. The deeper the hurt and the lower the stage, the more difficult the recovery process.
Are you ready to reconnect? Please grab my Save The Marriage System RIGHT HERE.
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Dr. Baucom is internationally known for his methods and approaches to saving marriages. For over 25 years, Dr. Baucom has been helping people around the world to save, restore, and create the relationships they desire and deserve. He is the author of the book, How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps, and creator of the Save The Marriage System, as well as numerous other resources.All stories by: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.