Saving Your Marriage: What Does Pavlov Have To Do With It?

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Saving Your Marriage: What Does Pavlov Have To Do With It?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, September 9th, 2011 | No Comments

Remember Pavlov and his dog? In this famous experiment, Ivan Pavlov would ring a bell and then feed his dog. He repeated this process over and over, and then he just rang the bell. No food. Remember the dog’s response? He still expected the food and started salivating! We can all be clear that Fido [...]

Can A Separation Really Save A Marriage?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, August 30th, 2011 | 2 Comments

Were you watching the Today Show this morning? After a Wall Street Journal article, a segment on how a separation saved a marriage was on. Which means that countless couples this morning are contemplating separation. Some are hoping it will save their marriage. Others simply want justification to get out (“let’s separate and see if [...]

How To Save Your Marriage When It Hurts

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, August 29th, 2011 | No Comments

Too many times, I have answered my phone to sobs, had people come to my office in tears, write emails that are outpourings of pain. So, let’s be clear — saving a marriage is tough work! It requires you to set aside the pain you feel and move forward. It means setting aside anger and [...]

Sometimes, It Is Just Easier To Give Up, Call It Quits. . .

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011 | No Comments

. . .throw in the towel, walk away. Easier. But better? Let me tell you about Rod and Penny. They had been married for 17 years when they hit a tough spot. Both “tried to get things better,” although neither told the other. Then, both began to truly believe that the problem was the other [...]

Can Sex Save A Marriage?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, August 9th, 2011 | No Comments

(And can the lack of sex destroy a marriage?) I always venture into a conversation about sex with a bit of trepidation. Reason being that while few want to talk about sex, everyone has an opinion, and an emotional reaction to the topic. If you are in a marriage in trouble, and sex is one [...]

What Is Important In Life?: Lessons from the summer

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, August 5th, 2011 | No Comments

Wow! What a busy summer! My guess is it is no different for you. I always remember summers as a child. The days flew by, but time slowed down. It seemed that the world moved at a different pace. I have been on several trips this summer, first on a mission trip with my daughter [...]

Save The Marriage Video: Will Problems Just Happen Again?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, May 27th, 2011 | 1 Comment

Has your spouse told you that even if you did work on the marriage, the problems would just come back, so why bother? Or perhaps you did work on your marriage, only to see the problems return. Does that mean that problems returning is unavoidable? Does that make you or your spouse wonder “what’s the [...]

Video: How Can We Protect Our Marriage?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Thursday, May 26th, 2011 | No Comments

Marriages get into trouble when they are not protected. And marriages that are recovering must protect the marriage, so that it can keep growing. Marriages that are doing well STILL need to protect their relationship, in order to prevent problems. This video can help you protect your marriage from problems, and help recover from problems, [...]

Video: I Can’t Get My Spouse To Go To Therapy!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, May 25th, 2011 | No Comments

Many people think the only way that their marriage can be saved is through marital therapy. So, when a spouse refuses to go, you might think you are out of luck in saving your marriage. Can the marriage be saved without therapy? Absolutely! In fact, marriage therapy has a dismal track record! At least 50% [...]

Save The Marriage Video: I Keep Messing Up. What Do I Do?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, May 24th, 2011 | No Comments

Do you find yourself in a panic, making a crisis even worse? Does that mean you can’t save your marriage? Time to discover what you need to do if you want to save your marriage, even if you are making mistakes. Let’s face it: you are in the midst of a crisis, and most of [...]

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