“Bonding” is what happens when people arrive at the place where they are so connected that they want to be together forever.
Here’s the problem: many people think they have successfully bonded — but they aren’t! The proof is how many marriages get into trouble.
But there is a pattern, a path, a code to bonding. And while you may not navigate each stage, you will pay the price later on. The bond won’t hold.
Sometimes, I try to use Crazy Glue. You know that stuff that is supposed to hold something together forever? Well, in my experience, it doesn’t work — or should I say, I don’t get it to work!
I have to make a confession: I don’t really follow the directions. They are there on the container. You are supposed to clean and prep each side, place some on each side, hold them together, blah, blah, blah.
You see that “blah, blah, blah?” We do the same thing with relationships. Yes, there is a science, and yes, there is a path. But instead of following it, a couple says, “We’ve got this. We know how to do it.”
Strangely, since they have never done it before, I am not sure why they think they “have it.” No surprise that down the road, there is trouble. The “bond” doesn’t hold the two together.
Can it be fixed?
Rebonding is possible. But if you are working on re-bonding, maybe it is time to follow the instructions.
Join me, as I interview relationship expert, Bob Grant, on The Bonding Code.
We discuss the process of bonding, and what to do when that process is in trouble.