Is It Emotional Infidelity?: #58 Save Your Marriage Podcasthttp://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/wp-content/themes/corpus/images/empty/thumbnail.jpg 150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/669b7e375d93f77521ddaba08adb8063?s=96&d=blank&r=pg
These are common questions I hear when I speak with people.
Why is it so hard to define this?
One simple reason: it is a gray area of connection. A physical affair is much more clearly defined. A physical boundary has been violated. So, while there may be some difference of opinion on what constitutes an affair, it is clear when it becomes physical.
Not so with emotional infidelity. In almost every case, it starts innocently enough. . . so innocently that the involved parties continue to proclaim that nothing is wrong, no boundary has been violated, and there is no problem with the relationship.
Yet emotional affairs DO threaten marriages. Emotional infidelity sucks the limited emotional resources a person has, leaving the marriage floundering without connection. The emotional pain for the spouse who is losing the connection to someone else can be as extreme as if there was a physical affair.
Unfortunately, this often falls outside of the understanding of the spouse involved in the emotional relationship. He or she will often continue to justify, argue, and refuse to acknowledge anything is wrong. . . until everything falls apart and the truth is overwhelmingly evident.
In this podcast, I take a look at emotional infidelity and give some guidelines to help distinguish “just a friend” from a relationship that has crossed the line.
Listen below and let me know what you think in the comments area further down.