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Why “I’ll Try Anything” Is NOT A Plan
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

"I'll do anything" is NOT a plan to save your marriage!Desperation.  It is never a good guide.  Desperation leads you down any and every approach.  And in the process, you get nowhere.

I know, because I have seen it happen.  Someone will say to me, “I’ll try anything to save my marriage.”  And they try everything.

Book after book, resource after resource, and unfortunately, trick after trick.  They leave themselves exhausted and their spouse confused.

Doing “anything” often ends up being “everything,” which ends up doing “nothing.”

What a difference, though, when someone finds an approach that agrees with their ethics and worldview, from someone who is qualified to help, that matches their situation, and passes the “smell and taste test,” as well as the “mirror test.”

The marriage has a chance.  The relationship can get some traction.

We live in a world full of information.  That information is not the same as knowledge, and often far from wisdom.  It’s just information.

Learn why “doing anything” is dangerous, and the 5 steps to assessing everything you see.  You CAN create a plan that works, with an approach that fits, when you know how to assess the information.

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