Save The Marriage Blog

I get asked this quite frequently.  And my answer is “No, not every marriage can be saved.  But many more can be saved than are.”
Here is what I mean:  a solid marriage is created by two people.  However, one person can choose to end it for any number of reasons.  Sometimes, the reason is good.  [...]

I admit it!  I am tired.  I am sore.  I have discovered muscles I didn’t know I had, and ones I didn’t know could hurt!
Here’s the thing:  for years, I have been a trail runner.  I love being in the woods, seeing the changing seasons, and running with my Yellow Lab, Sunny.  We have  a [...]

. . . that was the opening line from an email I just received. The writer was clearly angry, feeling that I was pressuring her into saving her marriage.
So let me be clear, I DO NOT pressure people into trying to save their marriages. Obviously, I do think that marriages should be saved, [...]

I spend a good portion of my week responding to consultation emails and working with clients. This week, I had two cases that reminded me of a very important fact: we all have a tendency to play tug-of-war.Let me explain with a personal example. A couple of years ago, I was at [...]

Just a couple weeks ago, one of my clients gave me a bit of business advice that’s been directly applicable to saving a marriage. I wanted to share it with you.
My client, who is a businessperson, was telling me that there are four important “you’s” that are crucial for a business. [...]

Here is my Top 10 Ways to NOT Save Your Marriage! This is a partial list of the mistakes I see people make when they want to save their marriage. Sometimes, it is best to learn from others’ mistakes, rather than make it yourself.
10) Do nothing! Don’t worry, the crisis (problem, [...]

OK, rant time!
I have tried, for as long as I have been on the internet, to avoid pointing the finger at marriage advice on the internet. But I can’t be quiet any longer!
When I started offering help with marriages in 2001, there were maybe 2 of us on the internet. Now, there is [...]

I don’t understand it! I have been a member of my local YMCA for several months now, but I don’t see a difference in my muscle tone or my waist! It makes no sense to me.
Oh, and a friend of mine went to the doctor, found out he had high blood pressure. [...]