My guess is you are at my site because you want to learn how to save their marriage. There are relationship issues that must be addressed. But where do you start? My answer: look in the mirror. You, yourself are the greatest tool you have in your efforts to save your marriage. Let me tell [...]
Read More...Over the past few years, I have begun to notice a trend in articles questioning the long-term survival of marriage. Some have called it a dinosaur with no place in today’s society. Others just note it is an outdated idea. The real question is whether marriage has any role in society. The largest evidence used [...]
Read More...I was getting ready to head out the door this morning, headed to teach a class. On the TV were the images we all have had a chance to see. Mangled cars, destroyed homes, scattered personal belongings. The destruction from the tornadoes this past week is amazing and awful. Then, in the midst of the [...]
Read More...Were you up early? Quite a few people on this side of the Atlantic were up long before the sun decided to get up, ready to watch with the world the nuptials of a future king and queen. I have to be honest, I was not among them. But as I rolled out of bed [...]
Read More...At its best, marriage calls us to reach beyond ourselves, to love and show love to another. Two people doing that is magic! Both people are meeting the other person’s needs, and getting their own needs met. But what happens when that process begins to fail? The process is like a whirlpool, sucking the relationship [...]
Read More...Ric Elias survived the plane landing on the Hudson River. And it completely reoriented his life. In the video from TED (one of my new favorite sites), Ric discusses, in just a few minutes, how the event transformed his life, including his marriage. Having been through a health crisis, I can tell you: looking at [...]
Read More...If you are wanting to know how to save your marriage, you want to start by understanding why marriages get into trouble. And when I say marriages, yes I mean all marriages! It is just that some marriages work through the issues, or resolve them. So, for just a second, while considering saving a marriage, [...]
Read More...Generally, I don’t move far off the topic of how to save your marriage. However, this morning, I have been glued to the TV and to the Hawaii Civil Beat blog, watching the developments from the devastating earthquake in Japan. To all affected in the Pacific Fire Ring, know that we are thinking of you [...]
Read More...I am sitting here at my desk, the morning of Valentine’s Day — a favorite holiday of some, feared by many! In the background, my iPod is playing (by coincidence I assure you!), “All You Need Is Love.” Ahh, romance is in the air. Try going to the store and not being assaulted by pink, [...]
Read More...I get asked this quite frequently. And my answer is “No, not every marriage can be saved. But many more can be saved than are.” Here is what I mean: a solid marriage is created by two people. However, one person can choose to end it for any number of reasons. Sometimes, the reason is [...]
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