Save The Marriage Blog

. . . that was the opening line from an email I just received. The writer was clearly angry, feeling that I was pressuring her into saving her marriage.
So let me be clear, I DO NOT pressure people into trying to save their marriages. Obviously, I do think that marriages should be saved, [...]

I spend a good portion of my week responding to consultation emails and working with clients. This week, I had two cases that reminded me of a very important fact: we all have a tendency to play tug-of-war.Let me explain with a personal example. A couple of years ago, I was at [...]

That is such an interesting question: can a book or an ebook really save a marriage? The overwhelming answer is “yes, absolutely!” That is the short answer. The longer answer of how any book can save a marriage is little deeper.
First, most people think of “book or therapy” as the two [...]

Do you feel hopeless and unable to change the outcome of your relationship? Then excuse #3 may be the thought that is running through your mind: “I want to do something, but there isn’t anything I can do.”
Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.” [...]

Here’s another excuse I hear over and over from people. “I can’t afford your information. It sounds great, but I’m broke!”
Often, they follow this up with “I can find free advice” or “X is cheaper than you.” Both statements are correct. You CAN find advice that is free. And you [...]

It is always gratifying when my ebook is reviewed in a favorable light. And it was just brought to my attention that it has once again received a great review. So, if you would like to see what someone else has to say (and in this case, someone who has reviewed many other [...]

Here in the States, it is Memorial Day. For some people, this is a remembrance for those who gave their lives in war.
But for most folks, it simply marks the beginning of the summer season. Ah, the livin’ is easy. . . at least according to the songs.
School is out in most [...]

People ask me for my “best advice” in working on a marriage. It is simple, but not easy. My advice for marriage is “be genuine.”
Why is this hard? Because when a marriage is in trouble, we immediately try to find ways of manipulating the situation to get some movement from our spouse. [...]

Today, I want to draw a distinction. It is a simple one, but one that is crucial for the success of marriage.
Here it is: Someone can love you, and not meet your needs. You can love someone and not meet their needs.
And here is what I mean: when we have a [...]

My last post warned you about the “Big Relationship Talk.” Bet you never imagined hearing a Relationship Coach or Therapist warn you about communicating!
Really, my warning was about hoping that big talk would iron out long-standing issues. The talk ends up being too “loaded” — too many expectations, too much importance, and too [...]