“How Dare You Tell Me To Save My Marriage!”

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“How Dare You Tell Me To Save My Marriage!”

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, August 19th, 2009 | 1 Comment

. . . that was the opening line from an email I just received. The writer was clearly angry, feeling that I was pressuring her into saving her marriage. So let me be clear, I DO NOT pressure people into trying to save their marriages. Obviously, I do think that marriages should be saved, but [...]

Excuse #3: “I Can’t Do Anything!”

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, February 6th, 2008 | No Comments

Do you feel hopeless and unable to change the outcome of your relationship? Then excuse #3 may be the thought that is running through your mind: “I want to do something, but there isn’t anything I can do.” Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.” In [...]

Excuse #2: “I Can’t Afford This”

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, January 29th, 2008 | No Comments

Here’s another excuse I hear over and over from people. “I can’t afford your information. It sounds great, but I’m broke!” Often, they follow this up with “I can find free advice” or “X is cheaper than you.” Both statements are correct. You CAN find advice that is free. And you can find cheaper advice. [...]

Summer: The Death Season For Marriage

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, May 28th, 2007 | 2 Comments

Here in the States, it is Memorial Day. For some people, this is a remembrance for those who gave their lives in war. But for most folks, it simply marks the beginning of the summer season. Ah, the livin’ is easy. . . at least according to the songs. School is out in most places, [...]

Want To Save Your Marriage?? Be Genuine!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, February 28th, 2007 | No Comments

People ask me for my “best advice” in working on a marriage. It is simple, but not easy. My advice for marriage is “be genuine.” Why is this hard? Because when a marriage is in trouble, we immediately try to find ways of manipulating the situation to get some movement from our spouse. It is [...]

Love And/Or Need

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, February 13th, 2007 | No Comments

Today, I want to draw a distinction. It is a simple one, but one that is crucial for the success of marriage. Here it is: Someone can love you, and not meet your needs. You can love someone and not meet their needs. And here is what I mean: when we have a need and [...]

. . . And Avoid That Romantic Weekend Away!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, February 2nd, 2007 | No Comments

My last post warned you about the “Big Relationship Talk.” Bet you never imagined hearing a Relationship Coach or Therapist warn you about communicating! Really, my warning was about hoping that big talk would iron out long-standing issues. The talk ends up being too “loaded” — too many expectations, too much importance, and too much [...]

Resolutions for Your Marriage

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, January 2nd, 2007 | No Comments

New Year’s Day has now passed. The frantic pace of the holidays is behind us. And life is beginning to return to normal. Perhaps you made some resolutions for the new year. Some may have been made in the rush of a New Year’s Eve party. Take a moment to think about resolutions you might [...]

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