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How Boundaries Transform Any Relationship (including a marriage)
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

5 ways boundaries help your marriage, make relationships easier, and allow you to grow.Boundaries may be a new concept for you.  Or you may already be working on setting boundaries for you and your marriage (I discuss it at length in my Save The Marriage System).

I believe that boundaries are foundational to having a thriving life.  Add in standards, mix a little “make an impact,” and you have an amazing life.

Boundaries are a “No” to how you are treated.  They set your limits of acceptable behavior.  Think of it as a fence in your backyard, marking your “territory.”  People in your fence are expected to be respectful and nice.

But here is something I have noticed:  many people treat boundaries like a weapon.  When upset, they take them out and beat someone back.  While it is important to set a boundary in the face of mistreatment, I would suggest that boundaries can be softer.  They can set the stage for a healthy relationship, drama-free and loving.

This week, I have the opportunity of discussing this with one of my top coaches, Terri Hase.  Listen in as Terri and I discuss 5 ways boundaries can transform your relationships — including your marriage.

(If you want some more training on boundaries, click here and here.)