Really, my warning was about hoping that big talk would iron out long-standing issues. The talk ends up being too “loaded” — too many expectations, too much importance, and too much of the conversation has already happened in the head of one or the other.

Today, I am sending a warning out about taking that “romantic getaway” as a means of reconnecting and starting fresh. Again, you may be thinking, “why is this guy killing my romantic reconnection.” I am all for that, but I also know that these “romantic getaways” are rife with potential disappointment.

Just like that big talk, both parties end up playing out the weekend, often in great detail (or fantasy) without being able to speak to these expectations. So, off you go, on the weekend trip, with huge expectations.

At the start of the trip, you may be disconnected, and expect to return connected. But when you leave disconnected, you end up trying to go from 0 to 60 in 2 seconds. Possible, but neither likely nor comfortable.

Instead, postpone the trip for when you are feeling connected. Take small trips — the coffee shop for a chat, the bookstore for a perusal, the movies, a walk around the neighborhood — as a way to reconnect. Then, when you feel reconnected, spend your money on a romantic weekend that has a chance to live up to the fantasy in your head!

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