Rule #1: The Goal of Marriage is to Build a WE

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Rule #1: The Goal of Marriage is to Build a WE

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Sunday, May 20th, 2012 | No Comments

Do you want to know the one, biggest, simplest, and most difficult secret of marriage? It is right in front of you, but you may miss just how important this one is. In fact, this is the one piece of information I try to get into every person I see BEFORE they get married. And [...]

New Series: 10 Rules For Saving Your Marriage

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, May 18th, 2012 | No Comments

In the last two days, I have heard the same thing. Once by email, once by phone. Yesterday, the email said “I don’t have much time. Can you tell me just one thing I can do to save my marriage?” This morning, the voice on the phone said “Help! I am desperate! I don’t have [...]

It Worked. . . and Yet!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, March 26th, 2012 | No Comments

Have you seen the cartoon that recently went around? The man is desperately looking for his iPad. It seems to be lost, and he is lost. He prays to God that if God helps him find the iPad, he will do whatever God wants. A few minutes later, he locates his iPad, illuminated by rays [...]

Time. . . And Marriage

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Saturday, March 24th, 2012 | No Comments

Last night, I had the chance to watch the movie, In Time. If you are not familiar, it is a dystopic future that divides the “haves” and “have nots” by who has time. Literally. The general population are programmed to live for 26 years (barring an accident or someone stealing their time). But the wealthy [...]

‘Tis The Season. . . For Breakups!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, December 14th, 2011 | No Comments

The air is filled with the lights and sounds of the holiday season! People are bustling around, making their plans. Malls and stores are full of shoppers. The smell of spices and cookies hangs in the air! Silent Night plays in the background. And all is right with the world! . . . Except for [...]

How To Save Your Marriage When It Hurts

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, August 29th, 2011 | No Comments

Too many times, I have answered my phone to sobs, had people come to my office in tears, write emails that are outpourings of pain. So, let’s be clear — saving a marriage is tough work! It requires you to set aside the pain you feel and move forward. It means setting aside anger and [...]

Is Marriage An Outdated Idea?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011 | 2 Comments

Over the past few years, I have begun to notice a trend in articles questioning the long-term survival of marriage. Some have called it a dinosaur with no place in today’s society. Others just note it is an outdated idea. The real question is whether marriage has any role in society. The largest evidence used [...]

Saving A Marriage Requires Reaching Outside of Yourself

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, April 26th, 2011 | No Comments

At its best, marriage calls us to reach beyond ourselves, to love and show love to another. Two people doing that is magic! Both people are meeting the other person’s needs, and getting their own needs met. But what happens when that process begins to fail? The process is like a whirlpool, sucking the relationship [...]

Video From Survivor of Hudson Plane Crash: How Crisis Reorients

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, April 25th, 2011 | No Comments

Ric Elias survived the plane landing on the Hudson River. And it completely reoriented his life. In the video from TED (one of my new favorite sites), Ric discusses, in just a few minutes, how the event transformed his life, including his marriage. Having been through a health crisis, I can tell you: looking at [...]

Why Marriages Get Into Trouble — All Marriages!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, April 1st, 2011 | No Comments

If you are wanting to know how to save your marriage, you want to start by understanding why marriages get into trouble. And when I say marriages, yes I mean all marriages! It is just that some marriages work through the issues, or resolve them. So, for just a second, while considering saving a marriage, [...]

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