‘Tis The Season. . . For Breakups!

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‘Tis The Season. . . For Breakups!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, December 14th, 2011 | No Comments

The air is filled with the lights and sounds of the holiday season! People are bustling around, making their plans. Malls and stores are full of shoppers. The smell of spices and cookies hangs in the air! Silent Night plays in the background. And all is right with the world! . . . Except for [...]

How To Save Your Marriage When It Hurts

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, August 29th, 2011 | No Comments

Too many times, I have answered my phone to sobs, had people come to my office in tears, write emails that are outpourings of pain. So, let’s be clear — saving a marriage is tough work! It requires you to set aside the pain you feel and move forward. It means setting aside anger and [...]

Is Marriage An Outdated Idea?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011 | No Comments

Over the past few years, I have begun to notice a trend in articles questioning the long-term survival of marriage. Some have called it a dinosaur with no place in today’s society. Others just note it is an outdated idea. The real question is whether marriage has any role in society. The largest evidence used [...]

Saving A Marriage Requires Reaching Outside of Yourself

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Tuesday, April 26th, 2011 | No Comments

At its best, marriage calls us to reach beyond ourselves, to love and show love to another. Two people doing that is magic! Both people are meeting the other person’s needs, and getting their own needs met. But what happens when that process begins to fail? The process is like a whirlpool, sucking the relationship [...]

Video From Survivor of Hudson Plane Crash: How Crisis Reorients

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, April 25th, 2011 | No Comments

Ric Elias survived the plane landing on the Hudson River. And it completely reoriented his life. In the video from TED (one of my new favorite sites), Ric discusses, in just a few minutes, how the event transformed his life, including his marriage. Having been through a health crisis, I can tell you: looking at [...]

Why Marriages Get Into Trouble — All Marriages!

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, April 1st, 2011 | No Comments

If you are wanting to know how to save your marriage, you want to start by understanding why marriages get into trouble. And when I say marriages, yes I mean all marriages! It is just that some marriages work through the issues, or resolve them. So, for just a second, while considering saving a marriage, [...]

How To Save A Marriage Through Connection

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Thursday, March 24th, 2011 | 2 Comments

“What IS the secret to saving a marriage?” I am asked that marriage on a daily basis. In fact, just this morning, I was speaking with “Donna.” She asked the same thing: “We are in deep trouble, and I didn’t even know it! We have 2 kids, and hectic lives. I knew we weren’t connecting [...]

“Can EVERY Marriage Be Saved?”

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Monday, May 31st, 2010 | 3 Comments

I get asked this quite frequently. And my answer is “No, not every marriage can be saved. But many more can be saved than are.” Here is what I mean: a solid marriage is created by two people. However, one person can choose to end it for any number of reasons. Sometimes, the reason is [...]

I Am Sore and Tired (And What That Has To Do With Saving Your Marriage!)

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Wednesday, April 14th, 2010 | 1 Comment

I admit it! I am tired. I am sore. I have discovered muscles I didn’t know I had, and ones I didn’t know could hurt! Here’s the thing: for years, I have been a trail runner. I love being in the woods, seeing the changing seasons, and running with my Yellow Lab, Sunny. We have [...]

Why Am I Optimistic About Marriages Surviving?

By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. on Friday, December 4th, 2009 | No Comments

Every day, there is another news story of a marriage under assault. Public figures seem to manage to royally screw up their marriages, and for what? Well, answer that and you will be wealthy! The cost of actions seems high for the payoff, yet they keep happening. So, people sometimes wonder, why am I so [...]

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