Save The Marriage Blog

I get asked this quite frequently.  And my answer is “No, not every marriage can be saved.  But many more can be saved than are.” Here is what I mean:  a solid marriage is created by two people.  However, one person can choose to end it for any number of reasons.  Sometimes, the reason is [...]

I admit it!  I am tired.  I am sore.  I have discovered muscles I didn’t know I had, and ones I didn’t know could hurt! Here’s the thing:  for years, I have been a trail runner.  I love being in the woods, seeing the changing seasons, and running with my Yellow Lab, Sunny.  We have  [...]

I spend a good portion of my week responding to consultation emails and working with clients. This week, I had two cases that reminded me of a very important fact: we all have a tendency to play tug-of-war.Let me explain with a personal example. A couple of years ago, I was at a conference. In [...]

“Marriage shouldn’t be that hard.” That was the opening comment of my client this week. He was convinced that his marriage was doomed. He believe it was because his marriage had become difficult. He believed that this should not be the case. I had to chuckle. Marriage is the most intense relationship that any two [...]

Yesterday, I had the opportunity of talking with a couple that I may never see again. The reason I will never see them again is because they are not ready to make a change. You see, they were caught in “ME mode.”What I mean by that is they were not even able to see outside [...]

Did you see my earlier post about my free video on changing your marriage by addressing your core beliefs? Well, that video created so much email that I made a second video. You can see the free marriage video here. Here is an email I got yesterday (just one of about 100) about the video: [...]

That is such an interesting question: can a book or an ebook really save a marriage? The overwhelming answer is “yes, absolutely!” That is the short answer. The longer answer of how any book can save a marriage is little deeper. First, most people think of “book or therapy” as the two options. “Should we [...]

Do you feel hopeless and unable to change the outcome of your relationship? Then excuse #3 may be the thought that is running through your mind: “I want to do something, but there isn’t anything I can do.” Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.” In [...]

Here’s another excuse I hear over and over from people. “I can’t afford your information. It sounds great, but I’m broke!” Often, they follow this up with “I can find free advice” or “X is cheaper than you.” Both statements are correct. You CAN find advice that is free. And you can find cheaper advice. [...]

I just received another email about why I can’t help them with their marriage. Simply put, the writer told me that their situation is just too unique. No book, ebook, special report, seminar, etc., could help them, because they are just too different. Their situation is just too unique for “general help.” Every week, I [...]