“For every piece of information,” the writer told me, “about how divorce hurts a child, I can show you research that it doesn’t harm a child.”
Admittedly, the writer was a bit biased. He was wanting to divorce his wife.
I knew he wasn’t listening to me, but I also know he is completely wrong. There is NO research that shows a child is unaffected by divorce.
But there is a preponderance of evidence that divorce does, indeed, affect a child. Does it destroy a child? No. But it does affect a child.
In a culture that would rather look the other way and not look at the damage of divorce, this has been a growing myth about divorce. It defies logic (divorce does, after all, change what a child has known as family and safety), and it defies research. The little “research” from the ’80’s that proclaimed children are unaffected, has been completely undone.
There are other myths, like being friends after the divorce, or the belief that divorce will “set you free,” or that people recover quickly. And these myths mean that many people jump into a divorce, looking for a “clean slate,” only to find that reality is quite different.
What are these myths? Let me give you my top 10 myths of divorce. Listen below.