Posts Tagged ‘stop divorce’


Are You Courageously Compassionate? Doing What Needs To Be Done: #49 Save Your Marriage Podcast

When we feel close to someone, compassion is easy.  It comes naturally. But when we are hurt or angry, when we feel disconnection from someone, compassion is harder. That is when you have to be “courageously compassionate.” Sometimes, we let our feelings “call the shots.”  We get stuck.  We give up.  Or we become so […]

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Is Your Marriage Chronically Stuck and Acutely Painful?: #42 Save Your Marriage Podcast

Is your marriage in a chronic state of stuck?  Does your relationship suffer from acute periods of pain?  Often, those moments of acute pain lead to a chronic state of “stuck.”  But that chronic state of “stuck” also creates the potential for more moments of acute pain. Feeling stuck can lead to reactions of pain […]

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Secrets To Save Your Marriage

As you may suspect, after a quarter century of working with couples, I have some opinions on what it takes to save your marriage. In this article, I want to take a look at some of the research and offer some opinion, from my experience, on what works and what doesn’t. Let me start by […]

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Save Your Marriage Rule #7: Avoid Power Struggles

When I was a boy, I went off to summer camp in the mountains of Virginia.  My Mom would tell you I was not ready for summer camp and didn’t like it. She would be, for the most part, correct.  Her reason would vary from mine, though. My reason:  mid-week, in the middle of the […]

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Rule 5: Accept that You and Your Spouse See Things Differently

Perspective. An important word. Your perspective is the position from which you view the world. You formed your perspective over a lifetime. It starts with your genetic makeup, then your gender shapes it. Then your family experience shapes the foundations. Then, every experience you have in life either confirms or changes your perceptions and your […]

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Rule #4: Use Civility — Even When You Don’t Feel It!

I remember years ago hearing a Native American quote that we are all born with claws and fangs, but learn to use them as nails and teeth. Unfortunately, it takes very little for the fangs and claws to reemerge, especially when there is a bit of tension (or a lot!). When we feel threatened, we […]

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‘Tis The Season. . . For Breakups!

The air is filled with the lights and sounds of the holiday season!  People are bustling around, making their plans.  Malls and stores are full of shoppers.  The smell of spices and cookies hangs in the air!  Silent Night plays in the background.  And all is right with the world! . . . Except for […]

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It Is NOT Enough To Just Stop A Divorce

You may be at my blog for any number of reasons:  saving a relationship, stopping a divorce, addressing an affair, thinking about a separation.  Likely, you are here because of a marriage crisis, not for pleasure reading, agreed? Many people want me to help the stop a divorce.  But over the years, I have realized […]

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“Can This Marriage Be Saved?”

Wow!  Doesn’t that question just get to the heart of the matter?  I just got off the phone with “Gina.”  Those were the first words out of her mouth, “Can this marriage be saved?”  She continued, “I want to save my marriage, but I don’t know whether I can.” I wish I had a crystal […]

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