You Know You’re On The Same Team… Right??https://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/wp-content/themes/corpus/images/empty/thumbnail.jpg 150 150Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/669b7e375d93f77521ddaba08adb8063?s=96&d=blank&r=pg
One more argument. One more struggle. They sat on my couch, facing each other down as opponents in some contest to… win… well, to be honest, I don’t know what they were trying to win. Because they were not winning at marriage!
I stopped them, looked at them and said, “You do know you are on the same team…” and they stared blankly at me, so I continued, “… right??”
They certainly were not working like a team. They were acting like enemies, in competition with each other. They were struggling to win. But either one “winning” would be a “lose” for the marriage.
Too many people miss this one essential — crucial — fact about marriage… you both are on the same team. You are working toward a common goal (or should be). The task is not winning as an individual, but as a team, as a couple, as a family.
This is the fundamental point of being what I call a “WE.” WE are in this together; WE stand side-by-side; WE have each other’s back; WE are a team! Same side, same direction (or should be).
Listen to this episode for how to get on the same team!