4 Mind Modes Killing Your Relationship

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Break free from the 4 destructive mind modes of flight, fight, spite, and right. Go for the modes of sight and unite.What is a “mind mode”?  This is what happens when your brain is caught in a state.  Sometimes, it is held hostage to a reactive state.  Other times, you get to choose a shift.

The dangerous modes are all reactive, based in fear, threat, and the desire to win (or at least be right).  Then there are 2 other modes that you can choose to adopt.

On automatic, in the midst of a relationship crisis, the 4 dangerous modes grab you and call the shots.  When you take your mind off automatic, you get to call the shots.

Here are the 4 destructive modes:

  1. Flight
  2. Fight
  3. Right
  4. Spite

Which mode grips you?  The dangerous (and destructive) modes or the constructive modes?

What’s Your Why?
What’s Your Plan?
Show Up
Shift Your Mode

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

Dr. Baucom is internationally known for his methods and approaches to saving marriages. For over 25 years, Dr. Baucom has been helping people around the world to save, restore, and create the relationships they desire and deserve. He is the author of the book, How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps, and creator of the Save The Marriage System, as well as numerous other resources.

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