Gut Punch Moments

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I’ll bet you know exactly what I mean by the Gut Punch Moment.  It is when your spouse says, “I don’t love you” or that variation, “I love you, but I’m not IN love with you.”  Or when you discover the affair or other marital infidelity (including financial).  Or when you discover some other hidden part of your spouse’s life that makes you question everything.  Or when your spouse announces the need to separate.  Or the divorce papers arrive.

Gut punch.

You lose your breath. You feel like a rug has been ripped from underneath your feet.

Gut punch.

And it might not be the first!  It might be in the midst of efforts to save what you already know is a hurting marriage.  Then, you find out more.  Gut punch #2 (or 3, 4, 5….).

It wouldn’t be a surprise if you don’t react the way you want to or wish you had.  That is often what happens.  And then, there is a spouse looking at you, surprised by your reaction (do remember that whatever that gut punch, they already knew it — they had already prepared!).

But what now?

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, we cover that Gut Punch Moment, and what to do about it.  Listen below.

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Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

Dr. Baucom is internationally known for his methods and approaches to saving marriages. For over 25 years, Dr. Baucom has been helping people around the world to save, restore, and create the relationships they desire and deserve. He is the author of the book, How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps, and creator of the Save The Marriage System, as well as numerous other resources.

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