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Why These Approaches Are Dangerous (2 to avoid)
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

There are some good and some dangerous approaches to saving a marriage. I tell you about 2 dangerous approaches… and what to look for when searching for help.I just googled, “how to save your marriage.”  There were 607,000,000.  Over 1/2 a billion results! How do you sort through them?  How do you find a real approach, from someone who knows what they are doing?

It’s like looking for a needle in a haystack.

And the problem is, some approaches do more harm than good.  And many times, you don’t even know who it is that is giving you the information.  What are their qualifications?  How do they even approach it?

I started my website in 1999 (THAT makes me feel old! — so last century!), before Google even existed.  And to be honest, there weren’t many places to look for stuff.  I remember when Google started.  That same search, “how to save your marriage,” might get a couple hundred results.  Still a lot. But far more manageable.

With all that info, you are likely to feel overwhelm.  Which means that some people will do absolutely nothing, not sure where to start.  Others will try to do absolutely everything… also not sure where to start, but thinking everything is better than nothing.  And others will stumble upon approaches that do more harm than good.  There are two that are particularly prevalent.  And at best, not helpful.

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I give you 3 criteria to use in judging any information, and I dismantle 2 common (and dangerous) approaches to “saving” your marriage. Listen below.

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“Don’t Listen To This” – Reverse Psychology
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

Will reverse psychology really save a marriage? Can this tip or trick help you stop a divorce?Have you ever noticed how often we want an easy answer?

Sometimes, people ask for my help, and I start giving some guidelines, offering my System.  It turns out they didn’t want that.  They tell me, “No, can you just give me a couple of tips?”

I can give tips on how to boil an egg better, how to keep your charging cord from shredding, and even a tip on a simple exercise routine.  But a “tip” or hint that will save a marriage?  Not likely.

But if you look around, you will see plenty of these tips and hints.  Simple things that promise to save your marriage.  Tricks, really.  Like, say, Reverse Psychology.

Sounds awesome.  Just say the opposite of what you mean, and your spouse will suddenly change directions and decide to NOT divorce.  Like magic.  Or at least like a trick.

We love those tricks.  Why?  Because then, we don’t really have to change anything.  We don’t have to look at the REAL issues.  We don’t have to fix the underlying problems.  Wed don’t have to really change.  We just, well, “trick” someone.

Except for one thing:  it doesn’t work.

Let me tell you why.  Listen in on this week’s podcast.

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