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Are You Owning It?

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

June 22, 2016

This post may be a bit. . . confrontational. But let me be clear that change requires a change. Something must shift. A new perspective must develop. And personal growth is part of that.

Here’s why I think this topic today is so important: on an almost daily basis, I hear from clients by email or in phone calls. They tell me the same line:

“I can’t help how I reacted! My spouse (pushed my buttons/disrespected me/made me angry/hurt my feelings/said mean things/was a jerk/….”

In that mindset, the person is just a puppet, responding to the outside world, thinking that the reaction is completely justified and understandable.

Change comes when you make the change. A different response changes the trajectory of your relationship. At this point, ONLY YOU can do that!

So, are you owning your response? Are you choosing your response?

Or do you continue to view your reaction as “can’t help it, makes sense, not my fault, etc., etc.”?

Time to make a shift.

Listen below to learn how.

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Do You Suffer From PPM Syndrome? How It Can Destroy Your Marriage!: #48 Save Your Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

July 16, 2014

Do you have it? Do you or a loved one suffer from PPM Syndrome? This syndrome infects many people — and they don’t know they have it. When they hear the symptoms, many people continue to believe they do not have it.

Oh, sure, somebody they know has it, they tell themselves, but “not me.” Let me suggest that many (if not most) people have some level of infection.

Does this syndrome hold you back? Most likely.

Does this syndrome hurt your marriage? Most likely. Whether you have it, or spouse has it, or both of you have it, this syndrome will damage any relationship.

But there is good news! There is relief. There is an antidote.

Before you get the antidote, you must diagnose the infection.

Listen to this week’s podcast and determine if you (or someone you love) has PPM Syndrome (“poor pitiful me” syndrome). It is far more dangerous and widespread than you may think!

Let me know about your infection (and how it is affecting your marriage) in the comments area below!

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