December 2018 – Save The Marriage: Even if only YOU want to!

Your New Year Renewal Plan

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 26, 2018

It’s just around the corner… just days away. The end of this year and the beginning of a New Year.

A new beginning. A fresh start.

A renewal of your efforts to save your marriage.

Many times, as time wears on, when an effort wears on… we tend to drift. Sometimes, we know it. Other times, it just creeps up on us. We think we are following a plan… but we aren’t.

This is a great time to take a quick step back, then take a strong step forward. It is a time to renew your approach, your clarity, and your determination.

On this week’s podcast episode, I cover 4 areas of renewal. When put together, you will be off to a great start into the New Year, renewed and recommitted to your efforts to save and improve your marriage.

Listen below for more on these 4 key areas of renewal.

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Holiday Hurt and Healing

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 19, 2018

How are you doing with the Holidays upon us? Did you know that between the end of November and the end of December, there are over 14 holidays (Holy Days) across the spectrum of beliefs and religions? In the US, the dominant holiday season is around Christmas.

If you are in the midst of a marriage crisis, the holidays can be especially painful, full of hurt and grief.

And opportunity. Healing. Help for your relationship.

Unfortunately, the hurt often keeps people from moving to the healing. Pain keeps them from connecting.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. It can be a time of healing and connection.

In this week’s podcast episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I discuss the hurt and pain, but also the possibility and potential for healing. Listen below.

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blah, Blah, BLAH… BANG

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 12, 2018

And suddenly… crisis!

(or not)

RARELY does a crisis come “out of the blue.”

Many times, people will tell me that they “had no idea,” or “never saw it coming.” But then, we start talking. And they tell me about those little warning signs along the way. The ones they ignored. Or that they didn’t fully respond to.

Those signs? That’s the “blah, blah, blah’s” that come before the crisis. The “I’m not happy.” The “something’s not quite right.” The “I need something to change.” Those are the “blah’s” that are either missed or ignored.

Or half-heartedly heard.

No real changes. Just attempts to duck the conflict, to change the conversation.

Here’s the thing: if you are already at BANG!, you can’t go back and address the “blah’s”. You do have to deal with the crisis. But you also want to be clear on how you got here. How the “blah’s” got missed. And why you are at BANG!

Let’s talk about it on this week’s episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast. Listen below.

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The Fatal Triangle (Don’t Be Sabotaged)

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 5, 2018

You want to save your marriage. Maybe you even have a plan put together, ready to go. Or maybe you have even started the process.

This episode of the podcast is cautionary. A warning. But the warning is not about NOT saving your marriage, but the possibility of your efforts falling apart.

It may have nothing to do with your plan.

Nothing to do with your understanding.

Worse yet, nothing to do with your spouse.

It is possible that a trio of dynamics can torpedo and destroy your plans and your efforts. Those dynamics can be fatal to your hopes and dreams. To your possibility of saving your marriage.

And this trio, this “fatal triangle”? They have nothing to do with your spouse or your plans. They emerge from within you. Tripping you up.