4 Steps To Not Ruining Today With Yesterday: #64 Save Your Marriage Podcast
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I have heard too many spouses say, “I would love it if we could save our marriage. But you have NO IDEA about what has happened! There is no way for us to move forward!”
Or how about this one?: “Do you have any idea what he/she did? How can I ever forgive/trust/move on/reconnect/love again?”
As far as we can tell, we humans are the only creatures capable of looking at what has happened and reformulating what is to come.
We are the only ones who can thoughtfully say, “Well, that didn’t work. I think I had better learn a new way/decide on a new path/try something different.”
And as far as we can tell, we are the only creatures that continually live our lives caught in the past, living in the land of “what has been,” while failing to note “what is happening right now.”
This is why I love Dr. Gary Chapman’s quote so much: “I am amazed at how many people ruin today with yesterday.”
Where do YOU live? Where does your spouse live?
You DO have a choice.
Today, I want to talk about 4 simple practices that will help you leave the past where it belongs — in the past, and how to move into what is, this present moment.
By following these 4 simple practices, you can escape the trap of the past, while still learning from it and changing for the better.
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