May 2024

There is a better than 80% chance that, at this moment, you are a Chaser.  In doing a little informal research, I noticed that about 90% of the people who read my articles, listen to my podcast, read my b0oks, or use my System, are chasing right now.

Why?  Because right now, their spouse (and likely, your spouse) is being a Spacer.  The Chaser/Spacer pattern can vary over time — who is doing which, how fast both are moving, and what the distance looks like.  Sometimes, couple switch roles.  Usually, because the Chaser gives up and becomes the Spacer, causing the Spacer to suddenly shift to being the Chaser.

There HAS to be a better way… right?

Right??

Why yes, yes there is.  So glad you asked!

In this podcast, I tell you about the Chaser/Spacer roles, how they come to be, why the are so problematic, and why they don’t have to be permanent roles or patterns.  We unwind it.

And I tell you about the better role.

Listen below to discover how to stop being the Chaser or Spacer… and what to do, instead!

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Many people tell me of their desperation to find intimacy — and their sadness over not having it in their marriage.

But is it possible to find that intimacy?  Is there a path to intimacy in your marriage??

There are choices people make… that often lead them away from intimacy — not toward it!  This isn’t on purpose.  They just don’t know better.

The path to intimacy may not be something you learned — or even saw in relationships around you!

But there IS a path. That path has 4 steps to get there.

Unfortunately, many people decide to leave in steps 2 and 3, not realizing just how close they are to intimacy.  True intimacy.

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, we look at the path.  I’ll tell you about each of the 4 steps along the path… and how to make a shift toward intimacy… just when you think you’ve missed it.

Yes, you can find intimacy. You just need to know the path to take.  Let’s get it covered for you!

Listen below.

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You hit the Pause Button on your marriage.  I get it.  You didn’t realize you were doing it, and didn’t know it was a problem.  You just thought you were dealing with life — the kids, a career, activities… life.

But while you didn’t know it was a problem, it is.  In fact, it is the big reason that marriages get into trouble.  Yes, there are lots of symptoms of the problem.  The underlying problem, though, is disconnection… from hitting the Pause.

Relationships don’t go into suspended animation, just awaiting re-animation.  Nope, they are either growing or receding.  And a paused relationship is receding.

Then, suddenly, you realize there is a problem.  It was brewing for awhile.  But since you were disconnected, you missed the signs.  Until it was a crisis.

And then, you go from Pause Button to Panic Button.

Now, you have to deal with both the paused marriage and the panic problem.  You have to find a way to heal the disconnection AND deal with the crisis.

How do you do it?

We talk about it on this week’s episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.  You can listen below.

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Why Pause Is A Problem
The 7 Stages of Disconnection
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