Give Up On Your Expectations
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Do you have expectations of your spouse? Does your spouse have expectations of you?
How’s that working out?
If you are like most couples, those expectations fail. Expectations aren’t met. Resentments grow. Disconnection creeps in.
Pretty soon, you both feel frustrated and angry.
Sound familiar?
There is a simple reason for this: Expectations never work. If you do what is expected, then you have only gotten to zero. Not above the line. Just to the line.
If you don’t meet the expectation, there is failure and disappointment.
Oh, and I forgot to tell you: expectations are just the way you believe other people should act. Which is far different than how people do act.
In marriage, the expectations can be about most anything: chores, parenting, money, intimacy, friends, hobbies, and any other area you can think of.
Some are spoken. Many are unspoken. And most end in failure.
Which raises the question: what do you do?
Give up on expectations (but not the marriage).
Listen to the podcast below and discover what I mean, and how to re-orient yourself — not just in marriage, but in life.
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