How To Move From Desperation to Aspiration
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We’ve all felt that feeling of desperation. Everything seems to be closing in. Life seems to be flying along, out of control, dragging you with it. You feel breathless, anxious, out of control, fearful, and desperate.
Whenever there is a crisis, desperation tends to be the default setting for humans. It is just the way we are wired. Not particularly helpful, but it is pretty much the default state.
Unfortunately, desperation often has the opposite effect than the one you want. It pushes what you want further away.
Think about times when someone is desperate to “meet someone,” or “get a job,” or “make a sale.” Watch as people flee from them, almost as if the person is repelling them.
Fortunately, there is another mode: aspiration. It is far more attractive, far more healthy, and feels far better. But you have to choose to make the switch. Desperation is default. Aspiration is by choice.
Care to know how to make that switch? Listen to this week’s podcast, as I talk you through the switch.
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