February 2024

Your marriage is in trouble, and you know you need help. But what type of help?  And how do you know if it is the right help for your marriage?  Tough question.  And I can’t answer it.

But I can help you get the answer.

I created a guide to help you find the best help, whether it is therapy, coaching, a retreat or workshop, or an online course.  I tell you the pros and cons of each, along with the ways to find the right fit for you and your spouse.

In this podcast, I do tell you how to grab that resource.  But more importantly, I tell you about four big mistakes people make… even before they get started with getting help.  These mistakes can cost you the possibility of even utilizing help.  At the very least, they make the process more difficult, and they make your spouse even more resistant.

Let’s cover the mistakes and get my report to you, so that you can find, get, and use the best help in saving your marriage.

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I know. I say it all the time. Connection is crucial — even critical — for the health and survival of your marriage.

But what if there is a trap… a Connection Trap?

Guess what?

There IS!

On this week’s podcast, I answer “D’s” question about their stuck place. She names what she thinks are the 3 C’s that must be there for a strong marriage. She names Commitment, Connectivity, and Chemistry. Those aren’t bad choices. They just set a trap.

A trap I want to warn you about!

But first, let me make it clear:  I wholeheartedly agree with commitment.  It is the guiding star for any marriage.  And it is critically important for guidance as you navigate your marriage crisis.  It can keep you pointed toward safe-harbor while you work on healing.

The trap, then, is with the other two.  No, I am not against connection (it is at the heart of my approach in my System).  I get concerned with how people expect connection to work.  And that is the trap.  Chemistry is another complicator to the trap.

Listen in below as I discuss The Connection Trap.

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The Pause Button.  You didn’t know you hit it.  But you probably did.

“We’ll get back to each other after the kids/ promotion/ travels/ hobbies/ events/ friends… (well, you get the idea).”

AFTER life, we will get back to love.

There is only one problem.  Relationships are either growing or receding, strengthening or weakening.

There IS no pause.

When you hit the Pause-Button, you are… even without realizing it… choosing the path of disconnection.

Then, when you go to UN-pause, you look at each other, strangers.  Disconnected.

In this episode of the podcast, I tell you why pause is such a problem, and point you to a path back.

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