It Is NOT Enough To Just Stop A Divorce

• November 19, 2011
• Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
• 2 comments

You may be at my blog for any number of reasons:  saving a relationship, stopping a divorce, addressing an affair, thinking about a separation.  Likely, you are here because of a marriage crisis, not for pleasure reading, agreed?

Many people want me to help the stop a divorce.  But over the years, I have realized that stopping your divorce is just not enough.  My job, my mission, is to help you improve your marriage.  I do not think it is adequate to simply stop a legal process and have a marriage just keep limping along.  There are a couple of reasons why.

First, I truly believe that life is just too short to be in an unhappy marriage.  And life is too short to suffer all the pain of a divorce.  But life is well lived, learning how to be in a loving and supportive, intimate marriage.

Second, when people tell me “I just want things to get back to the way they were,” I happen to know that “where they were” is how people get to “where we are.”  Again, heading back to that is heading back to stuck.

Third, marriage is something that should be cherished, nurtured and protected.   Not doing that means that we have really missed out on an opportunity for growth and enlightenment.

So, notice that my site is not  named StopYourDivorce.  It is Save The Marriage — save YOUR marriage, and make it something great!

Ready to join me?  Learn more by going to the home page of Save The Marriage.