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Video: When Is A Marriage Too Far Gone?
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So, you are working to save your marriage, perhaps alone.  And you begin to wonder, “is this just too far gone?”  It is a common concern, full of emotion.  Frightening to consider.  But let’s consider it.  This video will help you decide whether it is too late to save your marriage and stop a divorce.

Video: What Do You Do If Your Spouse Doesn’t Want To Save Your Marriage?
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Many people find me and my work because they are trying to figure out how they can save their marriage, even when their spouse is not interested.  Is that you?  Are you finding yourself the one seeking save the marriage information?  Are you wondering “can this marriage be saved when my spouse doesn’t care or even wants out?”  This video is for you.

Find the marriage advice you need if you are saving your marriage alone!

Video: Why Should I Save My Marriage?
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Another video to answer another common question:  “why should I save my marriage?”  Sometimes, we get discouraged, see no way to get things to change, and are ready to give up on saving a marriage.  But is that the right choice?  Are we making a wise choice when there are so many swirling emotions?

Explore the answer to the question of why you should (or should not) save your marriage!

Video: Can This Marriage Be Saved?
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For anyone asking the question, “Can this marriage be saved,” today’s video will help you determine that.  Too much marriage advice jumps in with suggestions.  I want to help you understand why you are here, and what can be done.  Then we can talk about what to do!

So, watch today’s video to help you decide if you can save your marriage.

Video: Why Do Marriages Fail?
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People often start with the question “can this marriage be saved?”  Let me suggest that first, you need to understand why marriages fail.  We will  be examining this in the first video.

If you are ready to start saving your marriage, please watch the video so you will understand what happens to a marriage.

 

The Save The Marriage Video Series
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Over the next little bit, you are going to find a whole series of free videos right here on this blog.  The videos are designed to help you get the information you need to help save your marriage.  Many people find this blog in a search for resources on how to save a marriage and stop a divorce, so I put together this series to get you going.

Will it answer all of your questions?  No, but no resource can do that.  Can it get you started?  ABSOLUTELY!  This is information you can put into place quickly and easily.

And keep coming back for more videos!

“Can This Marriage Be Saved?”
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Wow!  Doesn’t that question just get to the heart of the matter?  I just got off the phone with “Gina.”  Those were the first words out of her mouth, “Can this marriage be saved?”  She continued, “I want to save my marriage, but I don’t know whether I can.”

I wish I had a crystal ball and could tell Gina.  Her husband had started legal proceedings, but she wanted to stop the divorce.  She wanted two things from me.  First, she wanted marriage advice, but she also wanted to know if it was even possible to save her marriage.

The thing is, sometimes I see marriages that I think “there is no way this marriage will be saved,” but it survives!  But sometimes, I can see no real reason why the marriage can not be saved, and the divorce can’t be stopped.  The tough part of this is that there is another person who can still choose to act, no matter what one person might do.

So I asked Gina to tell me more about her marriage, trying to help answer the question of “can my marriage be saved.”  Gina told me that there had been unfaithfulness.  She also told me they were separated.  Then she told me that there had been no intimacy in over 6 years.  Then she added that they had separate finances.  And then she continued to tell me more and more division points in their relationship.

And that is when I know that we have a real struggle on our hands.  I guess it should be self-apparent, but the more issues there are in the way, the more points of separation, the harder it is to pull it back together again.  Sometimes, the shattering is just too great.

But Gina was ready for the tough times!

She had decided, when she asked the question, “can this marriage be saved?” that my answer did not matter.  As she told me in the midst of our discussion, “I WILL save my marriage.”  There was some real spunk there!

I warned Gina that her desire to save it might waver.  I suggested that she right down her commitment to try and save her marriage, and to make a list of why she was doing it.  The list would serve her well when she had doubts.  It gave her an opportunity to remind herself about why she was doing what she was doing.

I tried to provide the marriage advice she needed to save her marriage, if it were possible.  I don’t know if she can save her marriage.  I do know this:   if she does not try, there is no hope!  At the end, regardless of the outcome, she can look in the mirror and say “I did all I could to save my marriage and stop a divorce!”

Bravo, Gina!