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“Can You Fall In Love Again?” – Listener Question

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

April 21, 2021

As often as possible, I like to answer listener submitted questions (you can submit YOUR question by CLICKING HERE). The reason is because if you have a question, it is very likely that someone else has the same (or very similar) question.

In this episode, I answer Patrick. His question is a concern that when a spouse says they fell out of love, and only feel “friends”-type care, that maybe nothing can be done. Maybe, Patrick wonders, it isn’t possible to get back to love, to return to prior feelings.

Can feelings change? Of course. They already did. Which is why you are in a crisis. At one time, you felt the love. That has shifted, and it can shift again. Our feelings and levels of connection are always fluctuating and shifting.

So, yes feelings of love CAN come back. But why did they leave? And what can you do to help them return?

I cover those questions… homing in on Patrick’s enquiry for this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.

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What About Love?

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

October 7, 2020

A podcast listener (accurately) noted that I don’t talk too much about love. The listener wanted to just get back to the love they had shared at one time, and wanted to know how to fall back in love.

I responded with, “What do you mean by ‘love’?” The response started with “I don’t know,” and continued with “but how do we fall back in love?”

And there is the root of the problem. We have been struggling to define and describe what love even is for centuries, if not millennia. And we are still trying.

More than that, the loving feeling is not what you really are trying to return to. It is certainly a side-effect, but not what you want to try for.

And more than that, love is not even a clear indicator of marital success — maybe because it is so hard to define and describe.

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I talk the question, “What About Love?” Where does it fit into your efforts to save your marriage? Where does it fit into any marriage?

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Video: Can You Fall In Love Again?

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

May 22, 2011

We recently looked at where the love went. Today, we want to examine the question, “can we fall in love again?” A crucial question.

You see, I don’t think you should just be saving your marriage to avoid divorce. I believe you can and should be building an exceptional marriage. A marriage crisis does not mean you simply limp along into the future. You grow, learn, develop, and create a marriage much, much better than ever before.

Want to know what can happen? Watch this video to help you save your marriage.