Confusion or Connection?
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Last week, on four separate coaching calls, I listened as a client said, “I’m confused.” The client would then describe some behavior from a spouse that was causing my client to feel confused. Maybe they had a good interaction, but an hour later, things went south. Or perhaps they had a warm conversation before bed. But in the morning, the chill had returned. Or maybe the spouse was talking about working on things, only to say a day or so later, “This just won’t work.”
Confusion.
Understandable, right? Understandable, but not helpful.
Generally, once someone is confused, they are far less effective in connecting. It seems it is a choice between confusion and connection.
Don’t be confused. That is not where you want to focus your energy. Learn why to not focus there, and how to re-focus.
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