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Discouraged? Here is what to do (5 things)…
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Are you discouraged? Are you feeling your efforts are failing? Most people feel the same thing. Here are the 5 things to do when you are discouraged.Discouraged?

You are trying to save your marriage and… you can’t get traction.  You move a little ahead, only to slide backward.  Steps forward and steps backward.

And that is why you are discouraged.

Am I right?

What if I told you that was the nature of the process?  What if I told you that almost everyone has moments of frustration?

Most people feel like giving up (and many do) at various points in their efforts.  This is not a process that follows a steady line of progress.  It is more a tangled line, running up and down.

This is important work.  And that is what makes it so tough.  Important things often feel the most frustrating… especially when they are not going the way you want them to go.  But, and let me say this again, it is important work, saving your marriage.

Let me tell you the 5 things to do when you are discouraged, to help you keep moving forward.  Listen to the episode below.

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“Why Should I Even Try?” – When Discouragement Hits… Hard
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It can be so hard to save a marriage. Discouraging and frustrating. Why should you even keep trying? You don't have to. But don't quit, just because you feel like it. You want to make a decision, based on a choice. One that is clear of emotions. And one that is consistent with your own personal beliefs and stance.Several people have asked me the same thing:  “What if I am not even sure I want to save my marriage?  I am so frustrated and discouraged, I feel like quitting… not even trying.”

It is a great question!

(By the way, if you want to submit a question for me to consider answering on a future podcast, email to [email protected])

Let’s be honest:  it can be a frustrating and discouraging process.  Sometimes, people think I say the process is easy.  But in my book, How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps, I use the word, “Simple.”  That is not the same as easy.  Just direct.  Simple.  (Only 3 steps.)

Many people, in a fit of frustration, a moment of anger, give up and walk away… only to regret it just a little further down the road.

Which is why I suggest you think about your decision a bit differently.  I suggest you assess your reasons as part of your plan, and as a touch-point when things are difficult (and they will be).  Because many times, the difficulty comes when people are close to success… they just didn’t know it.

If you are discouraged (or want to avoid being discouraged), listen in on this episode of the podcast, as I explore “Why Even Try???”

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You Need A Plan
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Build Your Team
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