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“How Long?” Trust, Trauma, and Towels
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How long does it take to recover from broken trust? How long before you throw in the towel?I’m still answering your questions!  If you have a question you want me to cover on the podcast, just SEND ME AN EMAIL HERE.

Today, we cover “time.”  Or more specifically, “How Long?”  The questions come from 2 listeners, “B” and “J.”

B asked about how long it takes to recover from broken trust.  He follows up with wondering about PTSD symptoms and breaking trust.  If your relationship suffers from broken trust, I cover the issue of healing time… and what you can do about that time.

I also go into some discussion about trust and trauma, to make sure you understand how that might affect your relationship.

And J is interested in how long to keep up the efforts before you “throw in the towel.”  J says that they are in a “lock.”  I disagree, and I cover how to think through the stuck spot… what it means, why you might be wrong, and how to keep on moving forward.

Trauma, Time, and Towels.  I cover them in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.  Don’t miss it!  Listen below.

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3 Reasons Why Your Spouse Is Dishonest
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3 reasons why your spouse is dishonest.Why the lies?  Why the deception?  Why the dishonesty?

There are some root reasons why your spouse is being dishonest with you.

For whatever you want to believe about “character flaw” and “no morals,” that is not likely to be the real issue.

Sure, there are some “pathological liars.”  And there are psycho/sociopaths out there.  But that is not likely to be your spouse.  (Possible, just statistically unlikely.)

So, let’s be honest — everyone is a little dishonest.  We all choose not to say everything that crosses our minds (thank goodness!).

And we all hedge when asked about that new hairstyle, that new dress, the new furniture, etc.  That is how we keep friends and keep from hurting feelings.

But what about those bigger “dishonesties”?  Why does your spouse tell you a lie or choose not to tell you the truth?

I discuss 3 big reasons why there may be dishonesty in your relationship.  It may change how you respond.

 

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