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Gratitude In The Midst Of Crisis

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 23, 2016

Here we are, right at Thanksgiving Day in the United States. The day we are supposed to be filled with gratitude, feeling thankful for those around us.

Which may feel like a tall order if your marriage is in the middle of a crisis (or if you are in any sort of crisis for that matter!). What, gratitude when life stinks?

Yep.

In fact, gratitude is even MORE important when we are in the midst of a crisis. Yes, it is important every day. But when your life is upside-down, gratitude can help you get it rightside-up.

Is it easy?

Nope.

Is it important?

Yep. So, let’s talk about finding gratitude (not just having gratitude, but finding it) in the midst of a crisis.

Need more on being thankful and feeling gratitude? Listen here and here.

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Thanksgiving: Gratitude and Your Marriage

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 25, 2015

Here in the States, we are in the midst of the week of Thanksgiving. In fact, as this podcast comes out, it will be Thanksgiving. If you are celebrating, I hope you are with the ones you love. But whether you are or not, I hope you are inhaling gratitude and exhaling thanks.

The more research we do on gratitude and appreciation, the more we see how crucial it is for mental and relational well-being.

Since I am with my family, remembering all for which I am grateful, I wanted to share a Thanksgiving message, an encore presentation.

Many people fail to see where that place of thankfulness and gratitude may just transform your marriage. So, I share that with you today.

Oh, and I promise, thankfulness and gratitude WILL transform your life!

Happy Thanksgiving, wherever you are!

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How Gratitude Can Transform Your Marriage (Thanksgiving Message)

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 26, 2014

Thanksgiving Day, in the United States, is upon us. The day we turn our attention to “thanks” and “gratitude.”

What does that have to do with your marriage?

LOTS.

Gratitude can transform your marriage.

I discovered this a few years back, when I gave a couple an exercise that transformed their view of each other.

Gratitude is the language of connection and friendship.

Criticism is the enemy of connection, and the opposite of gratitude.

Learn how you can integrate practices of gratitude into your own life and into your relationship.

Wishing you a meaningful Thanksgiving, wherever you are!

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4 Steps To Not Ruining Today With Yesterday: #64 Save Your Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 5, 2014

I have heard too many spouses say, “I would love it if we could save our marriage. But you have NO IDEA about what has happened! There is no way for us to move forward!”

Or how about this one?: “Do you have any idea what he/she did? How can I ever forgive/trust/move on/reconnect/love again?”

As far as we can tell, we humans are the only creatures capable of looking at what has happened and reformulating what is to come.

We are the only ones who can thoughtfully say, “Well, that didn’t work. I think I had better learn a new way/decide on a new path/try something different.”

And as far as we can tell, we are the only creatures that continually live our lives caught in the past, living in the land of “what has been,” while failing to note “what is happening right now.”

This is why I love Dr. Gary Chapman’s quote so much: “I am amazed at how many people ruin today with yesterday.”

Where do YOU live? Where does your spouse live?

You DO have a choice.

Today, I want to talk about 4 simple practices that will help you leave the past where it belongs — in the past, and how to move into what is, this present moment.

By following these 4 simple practices, you can escape the trap of the past, while still learning from it and changing for the better.

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Giving Thanks Can Transform Your Marriage: Save The Marriage Podcast #18

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 26, 2013

They were bitter, angry, and pointing the finger at each other. Whenever I tried to get them to make a shift, they quickly reverted to blame.

I had to find a way to make a shift.

And then it occurred to me — one little exercise that transformed their marriage. Here is the interesting thing: either one could have done it and made a difference.

Since it is the week of Thanksgiving, I wanted to let you in on the secret that transformed their marriage, and may transform yours. It will certainly transform your life. But only if you give it a try.