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How To Move From Desperation to Aspiration
 150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
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We’ve all felt that feeling of desperation.  Everything seems to be closing in.  Life seems to be flying along, out of control, dragging you with it.  You feel breathless, anxious, out of control, fearful, and desperate.

Whenever there is a crisis, desperation tends to be the default setting for humans. It is just the way we are wired.  Not particularly helpful, but it is pretty much the default state.

Unfortunately, desperation often has the opposite effect than the one you want.  It pushes what you want further away.

Think about times when someone is desperate to “meet someone,” or “get a job,” or “make a sale.”  Watch as people flee from them, almost as if the person is repelling them.

Fortunately, there is another mode:  aspiration.  It is far more attractive, far more healthy, and feels far better.  But you have to choose to make the switch.  Desperation is default.  Aspiration is by choice.

Care to know how to make that switch?  Listen to this week’s podcast, as I talk you through the switch.

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The War In Your Brain Is Killing Your Marriage!
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Don't let the argument in your head trip you up!There is a war going on.  It isn’t between you and your spouse.

It is right between your ears!  Your brain is at war with itself.

Well, to be more accurate, there are two parts of your brain that are constantly at odds with each other, both looking for different things.

And the part of your brain we humans are most proud of — that rational, reasonable, logical part — is trying to play referee. . . but not very effectively!

Your lizard brain and your herd brain try to hijack you.  Each has a different desire, a different need.  And both can end up tripping you up. . . unless you understand the roles of each.  And until you learn to listen to each one.

Learn more about how the war in your head can kill your marriage — and what to do about it!

 

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