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3 Steps to Better Communication

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

March 30, 2022

Many couples make the mistake of assuming that their problems are due to poor communication. That is not (or rarely) the case. Why do couples think this? Because many therapists use that as the default problem to attack in therapy.

But communication is merely the method of passing information. Helpful in connecting with a spouse, for sure. It’s just that most people express themselves fairly well.

For years, people would come to my office and ask for help in communicating. After 20 or 30 minutes of listening, I would note that I understood everything each one said. They were communicating just fine. They had an issue, for sure. Communication, though, was not THE issue.

Still, communication is not irrelevant. It is one of the ways we connect. So, if communication is hampered by hurt and disconnection, then communication can seem like the issue.

In this episode, I offer 3 rules for better communication — communication that leads to connection!

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The Path To Peaceful Conversation

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

May 29, 2019

How do you make a shift, from painful communication to peaceful conversation?

What if you have something difficult to discuss with your partner? How do you start? What do you do? What path do you follow?

My guest on the Save The Marriage Podcast, is Susan Allan. After talking her way out of a very dangerous situation with her ex-spouse, Susan set out to discover better ways of communication in difficult relationships.

Susan created the 6 Part Conversation Process in her attempt to help others communicate better.

Over the years, Susan has used this process (and taught this process) to thousands of individuals and couples.

In my interview, we cover the first 2 parts of the process (for the full process, find the entire interview at Relationship Rewrite).

The first 2 foundational parts set the scene for a conversation that can be had and heard… that may just get you to a different place in your relationship.

Listen to the podcast below.