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How Values Can Save (Or Destroy) Your Marriage: #38 Save Your Marriage Podcast

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

April 30, 2014

What happens when you and your spouse just don’t see eye-to-eye? How do you get past it?

Perhaps the real issue is about values. Do you and your spouse share the same values? Or more precisely, do you and your spouse even talk about your values?

Many times, it is not a matter of values not matching, but of not understanding how your spouse expresses a value.

Or perhaps you believe you and your spouse share the same values, but never really clarified what you mean by the values each of you claim.

This week, I interview one of my very talented Relationship Coaches, Terri Hase, on how to get to the bottom of the values question.

Join Terri and me as we discuss values and how important they are in a marriage. Oh, and if you want to contact Terri, you can find her at [email protected]

Let me know what you think in the comments area below!

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The Power of The 4 P’s: #37 How To Save Your Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

April 23, 2014

You may be familiar with my 3 C’s of working on your marriage. Today, we make a shift and look at the 4 P’s of maintaining your mindset and approach.

How do you save your marriage when you keep getting pulled off balance by the actions (or inactions) of your spouse? You stick with the 4 P’s. You shift your mindset to see that this can take some time, that you need to keep on moving forward, but thoughtfully.

“How” you ask? By focusing on the 4 P’s. Let me tell you about them in this week’s podcast.

Let me know how YOU stick with the 4 P’s in the comments area below.

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Why Your Balance Book Marriage Will Fail: #28 Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

February 19, 2014

You can say it many ways: “keeping score,” “tit-for-tat,” “keeping a ledger,” “looking for the balance book.” If you run your marriage that way, you are headed for trouble.

Problem is, it is perfectly human to make this mistake. And in the midst of a marriage crisis, more likely.

Are you asking, “why am I putting in more than my spouse?” you are playing the ledger game. If you have pronounced to yourself, your spouse, or your friends, “I will not do anything more until he or she does,” you are playing with a balance book.

Unfortunately, I can tell you the outcome: marriage failure. More marriages die from a “Cold War” than from a “Hot War.”

But there is another option. Listen to this week’s Save The Marriage Podcast to discover the secret to a “ledger-free” marriage.

Have you played the game? Let me know how, and how you are changing it in the comments area below.

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What About Trust?: Restoring And Rebuilding — #27

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

February 5, 2014

It seems that every single day, and sometimes several times a day, I get an email asking a question about trust: “How do I rebuild trust after doing something wrong?” and “How do I trust this person after what he/she did?”

Trust, it seems, is a bit more complicated than first glance would indicate.

I believe that trust is a gift. Sometimes, it is a gift made to expensive, and other times it is a gift made too cheap. But in the end, it is easier to maintain trust than restore trust.

But what do you do if the trust has been destroyed? Can it be rebuilt?

In today’s podcast, I take a look at why trust trips us up, why some people have issues with trust, and how to go about rebuilding trust.

Take a listen and let me know what you think in the comments area below.

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Is There An Equation That Changes The Outcome?

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 18, 2013

E + R = O

That is the equation — the equation that can help you transform your marriage.

Can it save your marriage? Perhaps. But that equation will certainly change YOU and the outcome.

On this week’s podcast, we explore how this equation can change your marriage and transform your life.

Find out why this equation is “no-fail,” and how that is crucial to your relationship, your life, and your well-being.

Leave a comment below and tell us how this equation changes your life!

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Why Is Sex Such An Issue In Marriage?: Ep. 19, Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 4, 2013

When people give their reasons for problems that lead to divorce, they list money, children, in-laws, religion and sex as the top 5. Money is the only reason listed consistently above sex.

Why is sex such a huge issue for couples? Is it really about sex, or is it something else?

We are surrounded by sexual images and messages about how we are “supposed to be” in regards to sex. Stereotypes can overwhelm and poison us. What can be a connector becomes a struggle.

In today’s podcast, we discuss why sex is such an issue in marriage — and more importantly, some ways of getting beyond the stuck point of sex in your marriage.

Take a listen and let me know what you think. Leave a comment below (and please share the podcast).

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Dealing with Emotional and Physical Affairs: A Special Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 30, 2013

Is your marriage threatened by an emotional or physical affair?

Do you find yourself scared and unsure on how to deal with your spouse’s extramarital relationship?

Are you wondering if you can recover from infidelity in your relationship?

In this special audio podcast, I cover your plan for addressing the extra-marital relationship, whether it is physical or emotional.

Discover how to get beyond your spouse’s defenses. Find out whether or not to address the affair, whether or not to confront the other person, and whether or not to make an ultimatum.

I will also give you the 5 “don’ts” of dealing with an affair.

If infidelity, emotional or physical, is affecting your marriage, please listen to this audio.

Leave a comment below to let me know what you think. Leave any questions for future podcasts.

And HERE IS THE LINK to my book, Recovering From Infidelity

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Who’s The Enemy Of Saving Your Marriage? Save The Marriage Podcast #17

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 21, 2013

Let me ask you one simple question: who is the enemy of saving your marriage? Is it your spouse? Is it someone else? Is it something else?

The answer is crucial. Answer it wrong, and you will find yourself constantly struggling to move forward. More than that, you will only increase the resistance from your spouse.

Don’t assume you know the answer. Listen and discover.

Then learn how to deal with this enemy.

You can save your marriage, but this one mistake you do not want to make!

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Can Your Marriage Be Saved?: Two Measurements And What To Do: Save The Marriage Podcast 16

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 13, 2013

Can your marriage be saved? Let’s look at a couple of measurements that will help you determine how difficult it may be.

Do you know about boundaries and standards? Many people confuse the two, and if you do, you can cause problems in your relationship.

Let’s talk about boundaries and how to set them. And let’s talk about standards. Can you raise your standards? Find out why you MUST know the difference between your standards and your boundaries.

If you want to know how to save your marriage, you must understand the variables in your marriage and what you can do to gain control of your life situation.

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How To Save Your Marriage From The Zombie Infection!: Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

October 30, 2013

Is your marriage infected by the “zombie virus?” Do you find your relationship to be the “walking dead?” Are emotions lost and connections missing? Do you and your spouse respond to each other with “zombie grunts?”

The infection can be stopped. You can fight the infection and heal the relationship.

Don’t allow the big 4 symptoms of a zombie infection to overtake your relationship’s immune system. Fight back and restore your relationship to the living and the healthy.

(Special Halloween version of the Save The Marriage Podcast — and yes, the information CAN help you restore your relationship.)

Listen and let me know in the comments below what you think. What are other symptoms that YOU see in a zombie-infected marriage?

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