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Finding the Energy – Continuing your Efforts
 150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
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“I don’t have the energy to save my marriage. What can I do to save my marriage?"“I’m just out of energy,” she told me, “I don’t think I can even try to save my marriage.  Besides, what is the point?”

Let’s face it:  right now, many people are feeling exhausted and drained.  And working to save a marriage can be tiring when the world is rightside-up.  Much less when everything feels upside down!

Many people feel pulled in so many questions… but when something is important… as important as marriage… why does it get shifted down?  Relegated to the “left over energy,” if there is any?

There are some underlying reasons why it may feel like there is no more energy… and it isn’t really about not having energy.

More importantly, there are some things you can do to do an “energy reset.”  Make a shift… then save your marriage.

I cover the underlying issues and the way to solve them in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.  Listen below.

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“Why Should I Try? Don’t Tell Me What To Do!”
 150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
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"You can't tell me what to do!" Correct. But IF you want to work on your marriage, I can show you how. Up to you.Jared was a bit more pointed in his question.  But to be fair, I HAVE been asking for people to submit questions.  And he did.

He told me straight up, “You tell me to connect with my spouse.  Well, I’ve been trying to do that.  If I’ve been trying and it isn’t working, what are you gonna teach me that will make a difference?”

Fair question.

So I responded to it in this episode of the podcast.

Jared continues on about my “Easy” approach to saving a marriage.  So, just to clarify here and in my podcast, I never said “Easy.”  I did say “Simple.”  Many things are simple, but not easy.  Never confuse the two.  My attempt is to simplify the process, so that you do not get overwhelmed.  This is not some “self-working, no effort necessary” approach.  Anyone who claims to have that is simply lying.

On the other hand, I think I can clarify and simplify the process, so that you know exactly what to do.

But I tell you why in the podcast.

And no, Jared, you don not “have” to do anything.  But if you want to do something to work on your marriage, I am here to help.  So, let’s talk.  First, listen to the episode below for my response to your question.

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