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11 Things Happy Couples Do Differently: Conflict (part 1)
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

This week, we start a series on what happy couples do differently than other couples.

Success leaves a trail.  Experts have been saying this for decades.  If you want to get somewhere, look at people who have gotten there.  What do they do differently?  How have they managed to get themselves there?

Happy couples are not special.  They are no better trained than other couples.  They don’t have some special “coupling” gene.  They don’t come from better homes.  They aren’t “relationship geniuses.”

In fact, they are like all the other couples — except they do some things differently.  And those differences result in happy relationships.

So, what are those differences?  They are the focus of this series of free audios.

Over the course of the next three podcasts, we will examine 11 things happy couples do differently.

By taking a look at those 11 things, you can see the path.  You can see the trail.  And you can follow their map.

Over the years, I have noticed a truth:  100% of couples have struggles.  Around 50% find a way to work through those struggles.  But that doesn’t mean that 50% of couples are happy.  Only that they have chosen to stay together.

Couples really fall into 3 categories:

  1. Decide to bail because of the difficulties.
  2. Decide to “hang in there,” and just be miserable.
  3. Decide to learn from the struggles, grow, and build a great relationship.

This series is focused on how couples get to category 3.  This is not about “sticking it out,” nor is it about bailing, hoping to find a better option.  It is about building a great relationship, where you are and with your spouse.

In this episode, we take a look at 3 ways happy couples deal with conflict differently.  Learn their secrets and apply it to your relationship.

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