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Some marriages seem so fragile, ready to break at any time.  Many times, people work hard to protect that type of marriage.  It seems that anything can be the end of it!

That fragility is not baked into the marriage.  It comes from a mindset, a misunderstanding.  It comes from thinking that a successful marriage simply has no struggles, no difficulties.

Not true.

In fact, successful marriages take on the challenges as an opportunity for growth.  That is one of the hallmarks of thriving marriages.  Not just marriages that are surviving.  But ones that are thriving.

Over the years, I noticed that the thriving marriages had often been through their share of bumps and bruises, struggles and strife.  But they had learned from the struggles.  They had found ways to come together, to stand together, in the face of the difficult times.

Those marriages that struggled?  They moved from the team-approach to the me-approach:  “what am I getting?,” “why should I take this?,” “I want my fair share.”  And in the process, the relationship (the “team”) got pushed aside.  It was all “me, me, me, you, you, you.”  Not “WE.”

In today’s Save The Marriage Podcast, I use the term from business, Anti-Fragile, to describe what you are moving toward… and how to begin that shift.

Listen in to discover how you can shift from Fragile to Anti-Fragile.

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