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It’s a NO… (unless you ask/try)
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"Should I even try to save my marriage?" -- Wrong PerspectiveIt is probably the most frequent question I get… “Should I try to save my marriage?”  I get it in conversations, voicemails, emails, even by Messenger the other day.  People often give me a few (sometimes, very few) details about their relationship and want my professional opinion on whether they should try to save their marriage (or keep trying).

Truth is, that is a decision I cannot and will not make.  Each person has to decide whether they want to try and save the marriage.  I can’t make that choice for them.

But I do think there are some pretty important things to consider, as you try to answer that question.

One thing, after nearly 3 decades of helping people with their marriages, I know is the outcome of NOT working on their relationship.  NOT trying is almost certainly NOT saving the relationship.  There is a high probability that not taking action will lead to the marriage ending.

The real choice is NOT saving the marriage or PERHAPS saving the marriage.

Is it possible that you put forth effort… really dig in… really give it your best effort… and your marriage still fails.  But it is nearly guaranteed that if you don’t take action, your marriage will end.  And it is highly possible that you put in the effort… and your marriage is saved.

The choice is your choice.  But it is a NO… unless you try.

Let’s talk about that choice in this week’s Save The Marriage Podcast

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“What If I CAN’T Save It?” — Your Fears Addressed
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"What If I can't save my marriage?"Two phone calls the same day.  Both with the same question:  “What if I CAN’T save my marriage?”  One had been working at it for awhile.  The other hadn’t started (and was trying to decide whether to even start).

It’s a common question that gets asked at 3 different times in the process.  Each has a different meaning.  All share a fear.

That fear can keep you from taking action, talk you into giving up, or serve to inform you.

This week, I want to take on the question, “What if I can’t save it?”, because not every marriage can be saved.  (But NONE will be saved without action.)

Don’t let the question trip you up.  Understand what’s behind it.  And learn my answer to the question.

Listen below. . .

(And if you are ready to get started, GRAB MY SAVE THE MARRIAGE SYSTEM HERE.)

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