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The Spouse Predicament
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

What do you do when a spouse is resistant to working on and saving your marriage?  Can you just keep dealing with them?  Can you just give them information?  The spouse predicament.It’s a predicament, isn’t it?  It would be so much easier to save your marriage… if it weren’t for that pesky spouse.  (I jest, but you might actually feel this way.)

You make an effort, your spouse resists.  You take a step forward, your spouse takes a step backward… and tries to drag you back, too!

What DO you do?  When your spouse is so convinced that nothing can change.

Or maybe when your spouse starts to see some possibility… and you don’t know what to do, what to share, how to help.

Quite the predicament, isn’t it?

It certainly is for Lauren and Kristine.  They both emailed me questions for the podcast.  Seemingly from different places in the process.  But both were stuck on the Spouse Predicament.

Lauren has a spouse who cannot see a way forward, and resists every effort.  Is he being selfish? Should Lauren feel shame that she keeps trying… in spite of his resistance?

And Kristine is still stuck in the predicament.  But her spouse is seeing a possibility, a glimmer of hope.  How does Kristine avoid putting out the spark?  How much info to share?

The Spouse Predicament.  More closely aligned than it might seem.

We work to resolve the predicament on the podcast.  Listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES:
The Husband Bootcamp
Beyond the 3 Barriers Book
The Hope Formula
Hope and Marriage
The Save The Marriage System

Dealing with Indifference…
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

How to deal with a spouse's indifference and disinterest.For awhile, I have been answering listener-submitted questions, and continue to do so in this episode (if YOU want to ask a question, send it to [email protected]).

This week, I respond to a couple of questions about a spouse’s indifference and/or resistance to attempts at connection.

It can be frustrating when you so desperately want to rebuild a marriage.  Maybe your spouse claims to want the same.  Maybe your spouse just doesn’t respond much at all.  A little conversation… that goes nowhere.  Or attempts at conversation… that go nowhere.  It can feel frustrating and defeating.

How should you understand the situation?

What can you do about it?

Can you make progress?

We discuss these questions (and more) in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.  Listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES
3 Step Process
3 C’s of Doing It
Importance of Connection
When Spouse Can’t See A Way
Resentment and Anger
Save The Marriage System