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“Why Should I Even Try?” – When Discouragement Hits… Hard
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

It can be so hard to save a marriage.  Discouraging and frustrating.  Why should you even keep trying?  You don't have to.  But don't quit, just because you feel like it.  You want to make a decision, based on a choice.  One that is clear of emotions.  And one that is consistent with your own personal beliefs and stance.Several people have asked me the same thing:  “What if I am not even sure I want to save my marriage?  I am so frustrated and discouraged, I feel like quitting… not even trying.”

It is a great question!

(By the way, if you want to submit a question for me to consider answering on a future podcast, email to [email protected])

Let’s be honest:  it can be a frustrating and discouraging process.  Sometimes, people think I say the process is easy.  But in my book, How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps, I use the word, “Simple.”  That is not the same as easy.  Just direct.  Simple.  (Only 3 steps.)

Many people, in a fit of frustration, a moment of anger, give up and walk away… only to regret it just a little further down the road.

Which is why I suggest you think about your decision a bit differently.  I suggest you assess your reasons as part of your plan, and as a touch-point when things are difficult (and they will be).  Because many times, the difficulty comes when people are close to success… they just didn’t know it.

If you are discouraged (or want to avoid being discouraged), listen in on this episode of the podcast, as I explore “Why Even Try???”

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How To Stay In The Game
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

How to Stay In the Game.You might feel like “tapping out,” or forfeiting, just giving up and walking away.

It can be frustrating when you are trying to save a marriage, only to get pushback from a spouse.  You are working to build the connection, working to improve yourself, and working to make a different relationship.  But it feels like two steps forward, three steps back.

How do you “stay in the game?”

Partly, it is mental.  But there are also some things you can do to help you shift perspective, keep your patience, and keep on moving forward.  Let me share some strategies on how to “Stay in the Game” in this week’s podcast.

Listen below.