Marriage Lie #1: “If It’s Work, It’s Wrong”
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“I give up,” he said, throwing up his arms. He was ready to leave the session. But before he walked out, I asked, “Can you tell me what just happened? Why are you giving up?”
He told me, “Look, we have struggled during this marriage. Not just now. Other times. I just believe that if you are struggling in a marriage… if things aren’t just moving forward… it isn’t meant to be. It’s wrong.” And he turned to leave.
I responded, “Well, that’s a big fat lie you are believing!”
He stopped, looked back at me, and said, “You have 10 minutes to prove me wrong.”
This wasn’t the only time I have encountered this lie. And let me be fair: he wasn’t meaning to lie to me. But he was. In reality, though, he was repeating a lie he believed. There is nothing so dangerous as a lie that we believe, but is entirely false!
My client was ready to leave his marriage because he believed the lie.
In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I start a series on the Lies of Marriage. These lies are things people believe (and act on, because they believe them) that are false, untrue… a lie. But when they take on a life of their own, they unnecessarily destroy marriages.
In this first episode, I tackle the lie, “If you have to work on it, the marriage is wrong.”
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