Beware of “Easy” Tips and Tricks

• April 25, 2018
• Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
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It’s a common question.

And a dangerous question.

“Give me an easy trick or tip that will save my marriage.”  I heard it last week from a phone call.

Another one just wanted the “Cliff Notes” on saving their marriage.  No need to go in-depth.  Just an overview.  And “easy” way to save their marriage.

First, let me be clear:  I do believe that both people were quite sincere in their desires to save their marriage.  I think they both wanted to turn things around, to “fix” things.

But… they wanted the “short cut.”  No muss.  No fuss.  Just a quick way to turn it around.

Quick question:  just before you go into surgery, do you want to think your doctor just looked up a quick “tip” on your surgery — maybe just read the overview from a journal or book — or, would you rather know that the doctor had put in the time and effort to learn about how to do the surgery?

I know my answer.  I want him to KNOW what he is doing.  Not have a quick overview.

If it is just a book for a test, Cliff Notes!  I used them (I hate to admit).  But for something important?

We need to go in-depth.  Not to Ph.D. level (I did that so you don’t have to).  Enough, though, to be really doing the work.  Not just trying to get by and slide through the crisis.

The process of saving your marriage is actually pretty simple.  Which should never be confused with easy.  (I cover this in my book, How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps.)

Don’t fall for the “easy tip/trick” or look for the easy answer.  Make it real.

This is what I discuss in this week’s Save The Marriage Podcast.  You can listen below.

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