Earning Back Love (Is NOT The Goal)
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Sometimes, people tell me that as they are trying to save their marriage, they actually feel like they are trying to earn back the love of a spouse. They want to know if that is what it really is — earning back the love (and even trust).
The short answer is NO, that is not the goal.
A slightly longer answer is that if you are working to earn back love, you are also working on building a unsustainable and not-very-healthy relationship.
That is my topic for this week’s Save The Marriage Podcast: why you are NOT trying to earn back your spouse’s love, why that approach is problematic, AND what to do instead.
Your marriage can be saved. But not by trying to earn back your spouse’s love.
Can the love return to your marriage? Absolutely.
But that doesn’t mean it is the goal of the process.
(Love isn’t earned. It is given.)
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