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October 2022

Why “Limbo” is a Lie
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Are you feeling like you are stuck in limbo?Do you feel like you are stuck in limbo?  That crazy spot where you can’t move forward, but aren’t ending things?  Is it a spouse who has you stuck there?

Well, that was the situation for “J.”  He wrote me because his spouse could not decide on whether to stay or go, work on things or walk away.

He told me he was stuck in Limbo, didn’t know what to do, and didn’t know how to get his spouse to work on the relationship.

What should he do??

I respond to J’s question in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.  And it may just be where you find yourself, too.  Not able to move forward, but not ready to walk away.

How do you deal with “Limbo”?  We discuss it.  Listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES:
3 C’s of Saving Your Marriage
3 A’s in Your Control
3 Levels of Connection
Save The Marriage System

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Midlife Marriage Crisis and Connecting
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Dealing with a midlife marriage crisis, even when complicated by an affair.Mid Life Crisis… the butt of many jokes.  And a crisis for many marriages!  I have seen several studies that challenged whether there is such a thing as a mid life crisis.  I don’t find many of my therapist or coach friends wondering that.  We see it every day.

And I see the strain a MLC can place on an already-hurting marriage.  If the marriage is disconnected already, a MLC turns into a MLMC (mid life marriage crisis).  Which often leads to compounding issues, like an affair.

What can you do, if your spouse is having a mid life crisis?  And what if it is complicated by an affair?

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I discuss what a MLC is, when it can become a MLMC, and what to do in response.  Even if there is an affair.

(Why this episode?  Because a listener asked.  If you have a question — a Goldilocks question, as I discuss in the episode — you can send it here.)

 

RELATED RESOURCES:
Mid Life Crisis Series
Why Connection is So Important
The Pause Button
Dealing with Affairs
My Book:  Recovering from the Affair
My Program:  Save The Marriage

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