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Your Questions About Infidelity, part 2
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Listener questions about infidelity and cheating answered here. Just part 1. How to deal with cheating, physical or emotional. Infidelity and affairs hurt many marriages. Learn how to recover.In the last episode, I answered questions about infidelity and marriage.  Well, I started answering questions.  Since I started asking for your questions, I have received quite a few about affairs and infidelity.  So, I continue answering questions in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.

Last episode, we focused more on what to do while there is an affair, emotional or physical.

This episode focuses a bit more on the aftermath.  What do you do when the affair is ending/has ended?  Especially if there is still contact!

What do you do with those thoughts and fears?  What do you do about trust?  How do you rebuild the relationship in the shadow of cheating?  Especially if the cheating spouse is not doing what you want them to do in the recovery process?

And by the way, what’s “normal” in an upside-down reality?

We cover that and more!

Listen below for my answers to listener questions on infidelity (part 2)

RELATED RESOURCES:
Book:  Recovering From The Affair
Infidelity Questions, Part 1
Other Infidelity Podcast Episodes
Truth About Trust
Aftermath of An Affair
Apologizing and Forgiving
Importance of Connection

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Your Questions About Infidelity, Part 1
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Listen questions about infidelity and cheating answered here. Just part 1. How to deal with cheating, physical or emotional. Infidelity and affairs hurt many marriages. Learn how to recover.Someone cheated.  What now?  Can a marriage survive infidelity, either physical or emotional?  Can a relationship recover after an affair?

Over the past while, I have been answering listener questions (you can submit by emailing here). And this week, we turn our attention to the subject of infidelity and affairs (both physical and emotional).

To be honest, I receive more questions on this topic than any other (which is the reason I wrote the book on recovering from an affair). So, this is only part 1 of my answers.

Affairs and infidelity affect many marriages.  They are a risk during a marriage crisis, and they deepen a  crisis already happening. Infidelity is less a cause of the actual crisis, and more a symptom.  But a discovered affair is often the first clear sign of the depths of crisis.

How do you deal with your emotions?  How do you deal with your spouse?  And how about that other person?

We touch on this and many other issues in the episode below.  Listen in.

RELATED RESOURCES
Book:  Recovering From The Affair
Prior Affair Resources
Aftermath Of An Affair
Importance of Forgiveness
Importance of Apology
System To Save Your Marriage (including Audio on Dealing With Affair)

 

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Is It Emotional Infidelity?: #58 Save Your Marriage Podcast
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Emotional Infidelity in marriage.When is it emotional infidelity?  What are the signs of emotional affairs?

These are common questions I hear when I speak with people.

Why is it so hard to define this?

One simple reason:  it is a gray area of connection.  A physical affair is much more clearly defined.  A physical boundary has been violated.  So, while there may be some difference of opinion on what constitutes an affair, it is clear when it becomes physical.

Not so with emotional infidelity.  In almost every case, it starts innocently enough. . . so innocently that the involved parties continue to proclaim that nothing is wrong, no boundary has been violated, and there is no problem with the relationship.

Yet emotional affairs DO threaten marriages.  Emotional infidelity sucks the limited emotional resources a person has, leaving the marriage floundering without connection.  The emotional pain for the spouse who is losing the connection to someone else can be as extreme as if there was a physical affair.

Unfortunately, this often falls outside of the understanding of the spouse involved in the emotional relationship.  He or she will often continue to justify, argue, and refuse to acknowledge anything is wrong. . . until everything falls apart and the truth is overwhelmingly evident.

In this podcast, I take a look at emotional infidelity and give some guidelines to help distinguish “just a friend” from a relationship that has crossed the line.

Listen below and let me know what you think in the comments area further down.

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HERE IS THE LINK to my book, Recovering From Infidelity

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