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Fear Got You Stuck?
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How fear keeps you stuck, but doesn't have to!Just the other day, I received a message from someone who said she wanted to save her marriage BUT she was afraid.  She told me about the fear that gripped her, SO she couldn’t work on saving her marriage.  I tried to have a discussion with her, but she had a mistaken belief that her fear was keeping her from saving her marriage.

It was not her fear.  It was her.  She was keeping herself from working on saving her marriage.  Fear = background noise, at least in the process of saving your marriage.

Fear should never choose your actions.  Fear should never dictate what you do (or don’t do).  But many times, it does.

You probably already know that EVERYONE feels fear.  And many of us forget that fear is just that — a feeling.  We make it real.  We make it some determining factor in what we can do.  Fear can keep you stuck.  But it doesn’t have to.  That choice is up to you.

Discover how to keep your fear from keeping you stuck (notice I did NOT say “how to not feel fear”) and how to move forward.

RELATED RESOURCES
3 Steps To Save Your Marriage
You Need A Plan
Tools of Connection
The System
The VIP Program

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How To Move From Desperation to Aspiration
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We’ve all felt that feeling of desperation.  Everything seems to be closing in.  Life seems to be flying along, out of control, dragging you with it.  You feel breathless, anxious, out of control, fearful, and desperate.

Whenever there is a crisis, desperation tends to be the default setting for humans. It is just the way we are wired.  Not particularly helpful, but it is pretty much the default state.

Unfortunately, desperation often has the opposite effect than the one you want.  It pushes what you want further away.

Think about times when someone is desperate to “meet someone,” or “get a job,” or “make a sale.”  Watch as people flee from them, almost as if the person is repelling them.

Fortunately, there is another mode:  aspiration.  It is far more attractive, far more healthy, and feels far better.  But you have to choose to make the switch.  Desperation is default.  Aspiration is by choice.

Care to know how to make that switch?  Listen to this week’s podcast, as I talk you through the switch.

RELATED RESOURCES:
Reason Why To Save Your Marriage
Why You Need A Plan
Grab The Save The Marriage System
Learn More About Virtual Coaching

 

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How Fear Is Destroying Your Efforts and 4 Ways To Reverse It: Save The Marriage Podcast
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Fear.  It is the enemy of your efforts to save your marriage.  We all have fear.  But how much does fear get in the way?

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, we explore how your fear of abandonment can destroy and undermine your efforts.

But more importantly, we explore some ways to make progress, in spite of the fear.

Take a listen, then leave a comment below!

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