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Gratitude In The Midst Of Crisis

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

November 23, 2016

Here we are, right at Thanksgiving Day in the United States. The day we are supposed to be filled with gratitude, feeling thankful for those around us.

Which may feel like a tall order if your marriage is in the middle of a crisis (or if you are in any sort of crisis for that matter!). What, gratitude when life stinks?

Yep.

In fact, gratitude is even MORE important when we are in the midst of a crisis. Yes, it is important every day. But when your life is upside-down, gratitude can help you get it rightside-up.

Is it easy?

Nope.

Is it important?

Yep. So, let’s talk about finding gratitude (not just having gratitude, but finding it) in the midst of a crisis.

Need more on being thankful and feeling gratitude? Listen here and here.

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The Ghosts of Relationship Past: #71 Save Your Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 23, 2014

The past can hold you hostage. The “ghosts” of the past can hold your marriage hostage.

Sit back and let me share a story with you. It’s Christmas Eve. Chris and Holly are trying to sleep.

They can’t. Their disconnection has never felt worse. Isn’t it that time of year for love and family? Songs sing of love and warmth.

Instead, Holly and Chris only feel bitterness and cold.

The stockings are hung, the presents are wrapped. Night has come, but not sleep.

Every day, Holly and Chris feel haunted by what “should be,” and the reality of “what is.”

Can anything change? Can anything be better?

Tonight, Chris and Holly are haunted. Not by their thoughts, but by the Ghosts of Relationship Past. These apparitions have important lessons to learn.

Will Chris and Holly learn before it is too late? Listen below to find out. (If you would rather read, you can find the article at YourTango right here.)

Want more help on Forgiveness? Check out this Audio.

Want more on connection? Check out this Resource.

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‘Tis The Season. . . For Divorce Attorneys!

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

December 16, 2009

The Holidays are upon us — mostly regardless of your heritage, beliefs, or nationality! It seems that this month converges everyone in some holiday. And just around the corner is the new year!

Why would I start with that in a blog on marriage? Because it is not JUST the season of holidays. It is the season of a building storm! You see, in the United States between Thanksgiving and New Years, activities begin to grind to a halt. “Normal” life is put on hold, and people “hunker down” to make it through — especially if there are problems!

Who wants to stir up troubles during this time of the year? Most people who see a problem decide to put it off.

Unfortunately, many spouses assume that since someone is not talking about the problem, there is no problem.

But here is the truth: come the first week of January, there will be one happy group of people — divorce attorneys! People will fill their offices in the first week of January. In fact, there is a spike in divorce filings throughout January.

It happens for a couple of reasons. First, there is a buildup of people who have put it off over the holidays. Second, the first of the year marks new beginnings. People with problems decide to take action.

My hope is you don’t fatten the pockets of the divorce business. If there were problems before the holidays, they are still there! Take these next few weeks to begin building a framework of healing. But don’t wait until January to get started! The attorneys are waiting!

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