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Love and Respect: An Interview with Emerson Eggerichs

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

August 12, 2020

“What’s love got to do with it??” “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what that means to me!” Tina Turner calls for love, and Aretha Franklin calls out for respect. But what is the connection between love and respect?

Emerson Eggerichs is the author of the book, Love and Respect. As you can tell from the title, Emerson is addressing just that issue.

In his work with couples, Eggerichs kept noticing the cries for respect by men and the cries for love by women. He realized that while we all need love and respect, men tend to need respect more than love, and women need love more than respect (generally speaking).

Here is the problem: men show respect, which can feel unloving; and women show love, which can feel disrespectful. In the end, couples feel unloved and disrespected, creating what Emerson refers to as the Crazy Cycle. And in the process, the marriage keeps spiraling.

The good news is that the cycle can be changed. Love and respect can be restored. And intimacy can return. But only when you understand the dynamics that are fueling the Crazy Cycle.

A while back, I had the opportunity to sit down with Emerson Eggerichs and discuss his ideas about love and respect. While originally, it was for another program, this is important for you to hear. In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I let you in on this important interview.

Listen below.

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What You May Not Know About Love, Respect, and Civility: #32 Save Your Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

March 19, 2014

I can’t tell you how many times I have had someone tell me, “I am no longer in love with my spouse.” And while they are in my office, I get it. They call each other names, insult each other, blame, are unloving, and disrespectful.

And in the midst of all that, there is a cycle: “If you don’t show my love and respect, I won’t show you love and respect.”

A best-selling book, Love & Respect, Emerson Eggerichs says that men need respect more, and women need love more. He says that men can be unloving while showing respect, and women can be disrespectful when showing love. I think he is onto something. But perhaps there is more to it.

In this week’s podcast, I take a look at the issue of love and respect, but also look at civility and courtesy as a basic platform. If you feel unloved and/or disrespected (or your spouse feels that way), please listen. There is an alternative.

Let me know what you think in the comments area below.

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